Living inside my head

[Analytic]

I am one person in the morning and a completely diffrent person by night and I believe it is because I am living inside my head.

Morning: I am always tired, uninspired, low self esteen, bored and just generally my worse self comes out .

Night: Feel like I could do anything, do deadlift, squats, approuch 100 girls aday. Everything seems so much more comfortable and easy. I have a hard time falling asleep because am excited to do all these things the next day but when day comes, its all vanish.

Am I just not a morning person? this has nothing to do with not getting enought sleep btw. Even if I sleep perfectly, I still cannot find motivation.

 

[joekerr31]

same thing is the case wiht me. i find getting up hard. but staying up easy.

if i were smart i'd just move to the west coast which is 3 hours behind the east coast. then my biological clock would be insych with your common day time hours.

as for living inside your head, thats the case with all of us - its called our brain.

 

[Analytic]

as for living inside your head, thats the case with all of us - its called our brain.

I meant as in that it is much easier to fantasize about what you're gonna do rather then doing it, it just easier to have these thoughts at night. Nightime just seems to mask any imperfection within yourself and the world.

 

[joekerr31]

hehe, i know i was just joking.

actually i think a lot of it simply has to do with the world being quieter at night.

during the day you can hear cars going by, bird chirping, etc. you have stuff you gotta get done, sh*t shower shave, go to work / school, etc.

at night all of that stops and you have time to just be you. thats usually when the mind perks up and starts thinking about things.

its a very difficult process getting to hte point in life where you wake up and use your day productively so that when night comes you are tired and ready to get some sleep.

 

[decades]

Zen Buddhists spend years trying NOT to live inside their head. They are a rare breed indeed. The point is WE ALL live inside our head.

 

[Phyzzle]

if i were smart i'd just move to the west coast which is 3 hours behind the east coast. then my biological clock would be insych with your common day time hours.

For a week, then you'd have to move to Hawaii, then Japan.

Seriously, when I had summers off during school, I would fall asleep two hours later every day, going on a 26 hour cycle, all around the clock. That's what some people are made for.

 

[insidious]

wow, interesting. I am the complete opposite. During the day i feel great, but at night i have heightened anxiety, feel no optimism, and actually become pessimistic and wimpy.

I am actually considering seeking professional help, due to this problem, which i deem very serious.

Glad I'm not alone.
A typical day for me epitomizing my world.
Weights in the morning. After that, I am sailing high. Get ready for work, feel like a million bucks. In the morning I feel hot and unbeatable lol. Sometimes I literally rush to work cause I'm so amped from doing 20 squats or hitting a PR on my bench press. I love the morning. I wake up @ 5am.

As the day drags on, my little inflated sense of self begins to take a beating and by the time the day is over I feel down, lethargic, apathetic. By the time I get home, I don't feel like doing squat.

If some stranger were to study me, he would not recognize the night Insidious from the morning Insidious. Just the way I'm built, I suppose.

 

[RedPill]

Great thread topic. I think many of us (myself included) deal with this same phenomenon and I think there are several factors playing into it. My current signature on this site is to remind myself (and perhaps others) to stay aware of how daily habits and actions affect mind state.

Possible contributing causes

1) If you have any sort of career that keeps you busy, chances are good you eat like sh1t on a regular basis. Not always unhealthy food, but infrequent meals, meals that are way too large, far too many carbs, too few fruits & vegetables. To boot you probably also have a regular intake of caffeine, and sometimes sleep-enhancing medications in the evening. The cumulative effect of all this is roller-coaster vitality levels.

2) As Joekerr suggests, night-time is peaceful. It's much easier to be creative and feel energetic with the responsibilities and deadlines of the daytime off your shoulders.

3) Unnatural light exposure. Ever go camping, or spend most of a weekend outdoors? I bet you felt tired and ready to crash fairly early at the end of the day. It was probably some of the best sleep in a long time. A lack of sun exposure coupled with constant artificial light after dark really messes with our biology. Not to mention the fact that most people block sunlight from their bedroom.

4) People feel more anonymous at night. It's not really rational, but as you said Analytic, the darkness masks your faults and imperfections, as you can shed your work persona for the comfortable freedom of your personal sphere. No judgments, no accountability, and it gives the imagination some breathing room.

5) You're experiencing a lack of extended physical activity to naturally fatigue the body.

6) Keeping "college" hours. That weekend party until 3 am and the alcohol-induced sleep until noon the next day mess up people's rhythm far more than they think.

7) Without early exercise during the day, it takes the mind and the metabolism several hours to get up to full throttle.

8) Distractions that are "off limits" during the day are available at night, increasing your alertness instead of helping you wind down. It's like when you were a kid and falling asleep for the last hour of school, only to feel like a million bucks when you got out and could get back to playing video games.

9) People tend to compartmentalize the value of their time, as if the late night hours are any less valuable than daytime hours. That extra hour of late-evening creativity has to be accounted for somehow, whether it's in lost sleep or a late start to tomorrow. The compound effect of this can really do some serious damage to your daytime effectiveness, especially toward the end of the week.

I really think that the malady described in this thread is a seriously overlooked problem for people in the Information Age. We have more choices, distractions, stimuli, expectations, freedoms, convenience, protections, concerns, and fears than any generation of humanity ever has. It would be interesting to see some sort of comprehensive research, if any study has ever been conducted on this topic.

 

[Analytic]

Yea its a subconcious problem that everybody face but nobody understand what it is or even know that it exist. In other countries, especially the poor farmer ones. They usually go to bed really early, am talking 8 PM and wake up around 5 am in the morning. They are really skinny but have the endurance of a marathon runners, they spend the whole day in the sun bending their back cutting/planting wheats. They don't prograstinate, analyze and whine about their lives like we do. Their days are structured, they know exackly what they have to do. We in the western world have too much options, we spend too much time thinking about what we want to do, what we should do rather then just do it.

Day time we are too distracted by all the conveniences around us to know that we're wasting and extraordinaries amount of time when we should be doing something that is productive. Night time is when there is peace and quiet to reflect what we did in the day and its usually nothing and we promised ourself tomorrow will be better but its the same thing the next day. People who succeed are the ones that overcome this problem in the techology driven society.