"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm right now sitting in this coffee shop with my laptop. To my right is a table with 2 girls very busy talking non-stop. Before I sat down there was a momemtary eye contact with the cuter of the 2 girls and I had immediately said "Hi" but she seemed not to notice. I don't know what I should do to break conversation and talk something. Help please.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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guywhoneedshelp

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Just walk past them, body rock towards your original direction (could be the bathroom) and say "You 2 are just so loud. My gosh. Thanks though. It's a pleasure to be included in your conversation."

something along those lines, edit that to fit your personality. There you go, ice broken.
 
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So I asked them "HI! Excuse me, "
(they look at me)
"can I have some information please... I'm new to Bangalore. Can you suggest me some nice things to do in the weekend?"

cuter girl: "There are malls, people go out with friends..." (I can't clearly hear all that she said. she kind of mumbles)

me : "but malls are there in every city right? are there any places special to
do in Bangalore?"

cuter girl: "nothing much special about Bangalore. people go out with friends, go to malls, that's all".

me: before I moved to bangalore I used to hear there are lots of nice places in bangalore to see.

she: ya there are many gardens here and it is called a garden-city

me: but i hardly see any people going to the gardens.. i've seen they are mostly empty.

she: ya ..
me (looking at the other girl with a smile): How about you? What do you
think?

other girl: ya, malls only..

me: but guys don't like to shop! it is a girly activty, right..
(they both smile)
me: so that's how you girls spend your weekends?

(they both agree)
(then I give them a break and they carry on their girly talk)

After sometime the cuter girl goes to pay her bill while the other girl converses to someone on her mobile phone. When the cuter girl come back I say to her
"So you two guys work together?"
Seems she didn't hear me clearly and says "sorry?"
me: (repeat)
cuter-girl: Ya .
me: You guys seem like real thick friends
cuter-girl: (mumbles something in agreement)
(i smile and she smiles)
then they carry on their conversation.

Then I guess it is time to get phone number before it is too late, so I pay my bill, pick up my bag and say
"Ok, I got to go. I was nice talking to you girls.."
(they both smile)
me: "Can we talk sometime again later?"
cuter-girl: (trying to be clever, mumbles something like) you might see us somewhere around in the area..
me: (ignoring that) like if I lose directions in Bangalore city..
(they smile)
me: Can I have your phone number?
she: Sorry (with a smile)
me: ok, see you (with a smile)

THE END
 
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Good job i have to give you an A for effort at the very least. I think you needed to engage them before and grow some more interest. I do the same thing i run around on the same uninteresting topic and places to see didn't really get them talking to you. I am not a fan of canned material, but thats why it works it gets girls involved in what they want to talk about. Your conversation with them seemed very bland to me and it was not really going anywhere.

Also, i am not sure but engaging them multiple times probably is not the best route to go. I think you seem less desperate if you go in with confidence and leave with the number. Rather then trying to spark the conversation three times.

Good job though it was a really good effort on your part and if you keep it up there is no doubt in my mind that it will get easier for you.
 

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You got some great experience from that. Good job
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You get an A for effort but usually when you ask for a number it doesn't quite work out. "Before I go, put your number in my phone." Or do the David D "write your e-mail address down" close if you really wanted to keep in contact for them.
 

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Bangalore? Isn't that in India? There was a terrorist attack in Mumbai, India recently bro...watch out when you're in public spaces...seriously :(

but yea, good try w/the pick up
 
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