Live by yourself. It's the quickest way to get to where you want to go.

Dan08

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A lot of guys here are around the 18-25 age. I myself am 20.

All my life I've lived with my parents, or at university surrounded by friends and company. Having people around me was the norm.

That all changed towards the end of last year. My friends and I were heading home for Christmas, but I was set to go back for just a week before coming back to my halls to work New Years Eve and most of January at a pub down here.

Now, I've had the entire flat to myself for a week. But it's the first time in my life where I've had the chance to depend upon myself for my own enjoyment etc.

There are guys probably in their late 20's reading this going big whoop, I've lived by myself for years what's all the fuss about?

It's indépendance. It's realising you and you alone are responsible for your well being.

When people found out I'd willing be by myself for an entire week instead of with family they couldn't believe why I'd do it. To them I was mad.

But to me it was a sign of things to come, I'm soon to graduate and will have to get my own place and this week was a test for myself to ease into this.

Without people around me to call up and hang with I've focused intensely on myself and work.
In the 7 days I've managed the following:

1. Worked 7 days straight at the pub, new year's eve, new year's day etc. Made £500 in the process.

2. Gym. Consistently getting in 3x a week. Eating for a bulk.

3. Began reading 'Think & Grow Rich' by Napolean Hill.

4. Began reading 'Awaken The Giant Within' by Anthony Robbins.

5. Started writing my interim report for my dissertation a month ahead of the deadline. 1000 words of 4000 written.

6. Written down by daily, January and 2015 goals. I read them everyday and focus on achieving them.

7. Started working on animation to focus on getting a job after graduation. Updating my portfolio, skills and showreel all in one :D

8. Focused on my online business, I now have a product and sales funnel in place. Now just creating the membership site before sending traffic through the funnel to hopefully reap the rewards in the longterm of 2015.

9. Taken better care of my appearance. I'm usually a sharp guy when I want to be, but I've taken it up a notch with the stubble, haircut and clothes etc.
I'm soon to get out into the world so the better I look the better it's going to go for me in the longterm. Nobody hires a bum.
 

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Congrats to you my man.
A week is a week, I think the real test is maintaining this way of life for months - years
 

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Not to diminish your accomplishments, but havent you just swapped out one distraction for another? This is not aloneness IMO.
 

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from reading this it would appear i enjoy my own company far too much

i have 2 friends who quite simply cannot be left alone , they need constant attention and company and are incapable of just chilling out by themselves

i always found it strange

some of my best thoughts ever come when i am alone
 

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I find this true. I'm young and still live with my parents (unfortunately) and I have come to realize that my family is inhibiting my growth as a person. Whenever I go away for a week or so, I always become the person whom I want to be. A lot more social, one with the ladies, confident within himself, not an ******* but definitely not a pushover either. I can do anything, achieve EVERYTHING. Self esteem is through the roof. Potential is reached. Focus is sky high. I mean, I am a true Don Juan. I had become whom I had wanted to become in my life.

But then I must return to live with them again :cry: and I revert back to my old self. The person who was shaped by my environment. When I leave permanently, I will truly become the greatest.
:crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy:

You got me thinking intuitively again so excuse my nonsensical ramblings about stupid stuff that you don't care about lol.

But yes, it is the independence, the FREEDOM associated with everything that lets you know that you don't have any responsibilities over anyone but yourself. You do stuff that is good for you. You progress yourself faster than you ever would normally because you are free to do anything you wish.
Independence. Freedom. Liberty. Self-reliance. You are not inhibited by anyone, not stopped or distracted by anyone. No one has ANY control over you. You are free.
 

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I don't leave the H&F forum often, so I'm only going off this post. Seems like you've made a good bit of progress for yourself OP.

:up:
 

Dan08

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Glad I struck a chord here! I find myself happier away from my folks and even friends at times.
It's the self-esteem and self-worth that comes from trying to stand on my own two feet....that **** is addictive :D

Keep on at it guys!
 
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