"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dole

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Met this girl at the club I played it cool and smooth. She would come around and leave with her friend through out the night every half an hour. At end of the night I asked her for her digits she said no but if you really want you will find my facebook. It just happen's that the girl she was with, know's alot of my friend's so it wouldn't be hard to track her down. So I found her facebook added her and it went something like this:

Me:
I worked hard to find your facebook, Not.
I see that you go to college, and I am at university
and it's akward getting to know someone over facebook so
do you wanna meet me for coffee/lunch??

Her:
STALKER MUCH!!
I can't belive you found me.. how did u do it?
soo what's up , how is life..
lol ahhahahahaha ur funnie .. i'm only part time...
lol as long as u dont think its a date or anything lol ...
were going to club tmr, me and (her friend) ..

Me:
I know people that know people that know some more people and eventually those people knew you. LOL
Life is good well not right now midterm's coming up and it's stressing me out so I need to find a way to get that off my mind
I can't do clubs this weekend mainly cause i got midterm's and I wanna save my money for halloween!
I can't believe 'date' crossed your mind because I asked you to coffee/lunch, what kinda guys have u been hanging out with?? is that where they take u out on a 'date'? HAHAHA
U calling me a stalker but on my profile history it says you viewed my page 10 times in 1 hour.. that would make u the ultimate STALKER!
I am free monday for coffee/lunch ( I got class till 12 )

Her:
lol i awlays go back to look at people profiles.. so dont feel so great! haha
lol no just some guys might be weird like that. !
hahah how the hell do you get history on your page?
tell me , that's so cool! hahaha
listen fool! - i got work everyday 9-530 ... so i dont do lunch unless it's saturday! hahah

Me:
foool??? w.e stalkkkker already calling me names!!
you don't i just made the history part up, I just know girl's pretty good and there curiosity :)
Does that mean we are going for lunch this saturday??

Her:
hahah Dummie!
hahaha yesss .. well that's wweird.. hahaha
hahaha i dunno .. i gotta see how friday nite goes and how late i'm sleeping in lol

Me:
dont do anything i wouldn't do tonight!!!!!
Actually there's nothing I wouldn't do so your good to go!! :p
u should give me ur digitz so i can holla tomorrowz

Her:
lol naw ... maybe someother time...

(She reply's my message at 5 AM)!! What was she doin on facebook at 5AM replying to my message??

I am not sure if this girl has low interest in me or not or she's just playing hard to get? I need advice on next step if there is one or just forget about her.:rockon:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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keep chatting her up like your doing, tell some stories, talk about stuff thats going on with your life, keep on asking for the number, eventually you'll get it. Just don't put much thought into it and don't worry about it.
 

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Shes defo playing hard to get

EFFORT said:
keep chatting her up like your doing, tell some stories, talk about stuff thats going on with your life, keep on asking for the number, eventually you'll get it. Just don't put much thought into it and don't worry about it.
Persistance is key!
 
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