"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Listening, helping and respect.

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I have been here for awhile now. I have likely received more great advice than given. Plus, I have met some really great guys on SS.

Here is what I was thinking. We have a wide range of members. Some are very savvy, some are not and some are simply noobs trying to find their way. We all have a reason for being here.

Many times, a poster will ask for advice which to some, would sound either stupid, needless or an otherwise waste of time. They might even ask for the same advice more than once.

The OP will either take the advice, not take it or consider all of the varying opinions he has received and ultimately react, adjust or otherwise make a decision on a particular problem.

Maybe we should be a little more tolerant when it comes to these guys. Even to the point of giving advice on the same subject more than once. Hey, it might even sink in at some point.

I'm one of the older guys. I have received good advice from guys in their 20's and 30's! I have also gotten slammed for a few things. Sometimes deserved, sometimes not.

Anyway, I'm gonna try and be a little more laid back when it comes to the advice I give out on here, and try and remember that what is really important some some, may seem trivial to others. :)
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yes I agree, it requires a little patience.

The obvious to some may be unclear to others, with experience and hindsight the systems and ways of the world seem to click into place... sometimes.
 

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Wow, I never thought I'd ever see a post like this on SS. I wish more people had values like yours. We could really grow as a community that way, if people genuinely tried to help each other with this area of their lives.
 
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