smooth guy
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What the title says.
Pretty basic factor but this is just a "reminder" so to speak. I see guys who have trouble with making conversation or "don't know what to say."
They ask the girls questions and get her talking about herself or something she did on the weekend or whatever, but a lot of guys don't really "listen" to her - they don't pay much attention. They listen but don't really listen if that makes any sense. A lot of guys just wait for her finish talking and then just disregard what she just said and "tease" her trying to be ****y and funny thinking that'll build her attraction.
In my opinion that's the wrong way to go when communicating with a girl. Why do women always complain that all guys care about one thing only and that is just sex? Women like to be heard - maybe that's why they love talking on the phone so much.
Next time you speak with a girl just try pay attention to what she just said - that way conversation will flow much easier and you'll be able to give the right kind of responses...for example the most common technique used in conversation is to pick up "keys" from what she says and use them to ask further questions (find it in the sosuave articles).
Being a tease sure is great, but you also need "rapport." You can get the first step of attraction or interest from her, whatever you wanna call it, BUT YOU CANT MOVE ON TO THE NEXT STEP WITHOUT BUILDING ANY RAPPORT.
Like I said, this is pretty basic but I know people have problems with conversation and this is just a reminder.
Pretty basic factor but this is just a "reminder" so to speak. I see guys who have trouble with making conversation or "don't know what to say."
They ask the girls questions and get her talking about herself or something she did on the weekend or whatever, but a lot of guys don't really "listen" to her - they don't pay much attention. They listen but don't really listen if that makes any sense. A lot of guys just wait for her finish talking and then just disregard what she just said and "tease" her trying to be ****y and funny thinking that'll build her attraction.
In my opinion that's the wrong way to go when communicating with a girl. Why do women always complain that all guys care about one thing only and that is just sex? Women like to be heard - maybe that's why they love talking on the phone so much.
Next time you speak with a girl just try pay attention to what she just said - that way conversation will flow much easier and you'll be able to give the right kind of responses...for example the most common technique used in conversation is to pick up "keys" from what she says and use them to ask further questions (find it in the sosuave articles).
Being a tease sure is great, but you also need "rapport." You can get the first step of attraction or interest from her, whatever you wanna call it, BUT YOU CANT MOVE ON TO THE NEXT STEP WITHOUT BUILDING ANY RAPPORT.
Like I said, this is pretty basic but I know people have problems with conversation and this is just a reminder.
