"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Listen To Country Music

Mission

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I love country music, some of that may have to do with the fact that I live in Calgary, Alberta. Onward, many people think that the artists are not talented and the music is simple. The truth is THEY ARE TALENTED, the beats are simple for a reason, the reason is because country is designed for socializing. Whenever me and my friends put on a country CD, regardless of how interested anyone is in the music, all start singing along. And why wouldn't you? When you are partying with your friends and a song about drinking comes on, of course you will sing along.

Country music is rarely AFC and the lyrics are often fun and upbeat. It is really difficult to explain in words, so I suggest everyone download these songs to understand why country is great for don juans, or anyone searching to improve their social life:

Toby Keith: Get Drunk and Be Somebody, I Love This Bar, As Good As I Once Was, Whiskey Girl, Stays In Mexico
Tracy Byrd: Drinking Bone
Aaron Pritchett: Hold My Beer
Alan Jackson: It's 5 O'Clock Somewhere, Chatahoochie
Brad Paisley: Alcohol
Corb Lund Band: Time To Switch To Whiskey
Emerson Drive: A Good Man
Dierks Bentley: Lot's Of Leaving Left To Do
Joe Nichols: Size Matters

--Mission
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mission

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I read that article of yours when you posted it. It's funny how you would say that Country is not rarely AFC, I mean looking at my collection objectively I am having a hard time finding the AFC songs. I would really like you to try and argue with me on this one because I live in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. Home of the Calgary Stampede. Ever heard of it? It is basically the biggest celebration of western culture in the world. Now as I recall, the general consensus of girls in not only Alberta, but also British Columbia is "cowboys are hot". I mean sure, you got Lloyd Banks screamin "I'm So Fly" but sorry bud that doesn't make the girls melt infront of your eyes. Here is a fun experiment. Go camping in the rockies, wear your black cowboy hat and boots, bring your guitar and sing/play country songs around the campfire. That seemed to draw alot more girls than the other sites playing rap music from their cars.
I live in the heart of this culture man, I know what it is all about.

--Mission
 

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Are you f.ucking kidding me?! Cowboys are hott? well, listening to country music doesn't make you a cowboy anymore than listening to rap makes you a gangsta. And you can say what you want about Lloyd Banks not being suave or anything, but I'll guarantee you this. Banks gets more action than Toby Keith...and he's richer. No AFC songs? I'm pretty sure the stereotype most people put on country starts out with the dude crying about how his oneitis left him, followed by the truck breaking down, and his dog dying.
 

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"My music is more PUA than your music"

We seem to really enjoy ourselves here. :rolleyes:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Country music isn't my #1 choice, but I do think it has DJ appeal. Whatever style works for the individual.

Girls do love cowboys...they love ruggedness and especially that 'southern gentleman' charm.

How was the Calgary Stampede this year, Mission? Properly known as
the greatest outdoor show on earth.
 
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Mission said:
I love country music, some of that may have to do with the fact that I live in Calgary, Alberta.
hey man i lived in alberta, in a crappy town near drumheller called "morrin"

i had tonz of girls there it was awsome, when i finish college im gonna move to canada, i want to live in calgary is awsome

i think country music is crappy they dont know how to play the accordeon


here in mexico we have something that is called cumbia colombiana, is like kinda like country but waay better, this music is for the gangsters and s.hit but still cool

download this song

celso piña- cumbia poder
 

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Titanium said:
Country music isn't my #1 choice, but I do think it has DJ appeal. Whatever style works for the individual.

Girls do love cowboys...they love ruggedness and especially that 'southern gentleman' charm.

How was the Calgary Stampede this year, Mission? Properly known as
the greatest outdoor show on earth.
Finally. I think at this point it is worth pointing out that it is tough for some people to appreciate country if they do not live in a western culture. Obviously California is far more ghetto than Calgary.

Stampede was great, however I grow more concerned they are trying to appeal to a more modern media than sticking to the country roots. However I bartended in the grandstand and had a hella fun time. The final weekend was insanely busy, especially due to Our Lady Peace playing Coke Stage. All in all it was great as usual, but I am glad it only lasts 10 days, because it gets brutal after a few days of it. Too many natives...

--Mission
 

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Being from Texas I can say that more women are attracted to George Strait than any rapper out there. End of argument
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I don't care if playing country music summons Marilyn Monroe circa 1962 to your bedside in a polka-dot bikini, I wouldn't listen to it.

OK, maybe in those circumstances...
 

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mattb717 said:
Being from Texas I can say that more women are attracted to George Strait than any rapper out there. End of argument

Great point. True as well.
 

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Well, I have lived both lifestyles. I spent years in southern Missouri working on a horse ranch and I've lived in NYC hanging around the bars near NYU.

I know there is nothing spcial about listening to country music when you live in the country or hip hop music when you live in the city. All of this basically amounts to blending in with your surroundings. I mean, the cowboy boots, the hat, sure, some women think it's hot, but there are more than likely 50,000 guys wearing the same sh-t if you live in a place like that. Likewise with the hip hop thing in the city.

It all boils down to how you carry yourself.
 

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Mission said:
I love country music, some of that may have to do with the fact that I live in Calgary, Alberta. Onward, many people think that the artists are not talented and the music is simple. The truth is THEY ARE TALENTED, the beats are simple for a reason, the reason is because country is designed for socializing. Whenever me and my friends put on a country CD, regardless of how interested anyone is in the music, all start singing along. And why wouldn't you? When you are partying with your friends and a song about drinking comes on, of course you will sing along.

Country music is rarely AFC and the lyrics are often fun and upbeat. It is really difficult to explain in words, so I suggest everyone download these songs to understand why country is great for don juans, or anyone searching to improve their social life:

Toby Keith: Get Drunk and Be Somebody, I Love This Bar, As Good As I Once Was, Whiskey Girl, Stays In Mexico
Tracy Byrd: Drinking Bone
Aaron Pritchett: Hold My Beer
Alan Jackson: It's 5 O'Clock Somewhere, Chatahoochie
Brad Paisley: Alcohol
Corb Lund Band: Time To Switch To Whiskey
Emerson Drive: A Good Man
Dierks Bentley: Lot's Of Leaving Left To Do
Joe Nichols: Size Matters

--Mission
my piece of advice..its afc...if ur liek me u like hardcore/metalcore stuff put like one or two country songs one there (ipod) and girls will be like OMG I LOVE THAT GUY JASON ALDEAN or w/e...belive me it works..but no more than one or two
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Was there an epidemic while I was away and all moderators DIE???

WTF is up with these retarded threads? Don't wanna be AFC, go talk to girls! :)
 

i am me

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no thanks man, rap is wut i listen to and i cant get into that country stuff....and i dont listen to music cus of wut others think, but if someone heard me bumpin country music, i would get NO *****. guess it depends on where u live cus in so. cal....that cowboy stuff is brokeback mountain kinda ****
 

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On the top 20 CMT countdown right now, just to name a few. (Looked up some lyrics at work, bored to sh!t)

The World - Brad Paisley
(to the world you may be just another girl, but to me you are the world)

When the Stars Go Blue - Tim McGraw
(where do you go when you're lonely, I'll follow you)

Settle For A Slowdown - Dierks Bentley
(I know there's nothing stopping you now, but I'd settle for a slowdown)

Building Bridges - Brooks & Dunn
(I'm still blue, over losing you. What else am I going to do?... don't leave me beggin' on my knees:crackup:)

That is some alpha music. :down:
 

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I think every genre of music has its fair share of good stuff.

However, to find them you must have:

1. An open mind
2. An appreciation of music
3. A willingness to listen to songs more than once

Those are qualities which are severely lacking in many music debate threads, particularly ones I've seen in other parts of the web such as the countless "Rock vs Rap" posts, in which many posters on both side of the fence generalise and stereotype the opposing genre, and the discussion just goes around in circles with both sides unwilling to compromise and continuing to deal "low blows" and use "evidence" out of context to try to undermine the other side.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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