List of things to remember (when going to a club)

[white cloud 8]

Hi,

Here is what I have so far (which I try to remember):

-dress and smell good (clean shaven, brush teeth, always be chewing gum and have it on hand, put some cologne on, style hair, put on some nice casual/dressy clothes)

Q: should I be wearing sneakers eg. black AF1s or dress shoes?

-make sure that I already have cash on hand eg. pay for cab, cover, first couple of drinks

-when I'm in the club with friends usually, I always maintain my self-confidence (I'm pretty confident) and posture when I pace myself around the club a couple of times (looking for girls)

Q: I have some hesitation going up to some girls (if there is a group of them) and striking up a conversation, how can I remedy this?

-when the music starts to get good (the dance floor starts to get packed) I go and dance

Q: How do I approach girls when I am on the dance floor eg. usually there are 2-3 girls dancing together?

-go and have some fun


Is that pretty much it? What do people think of my routine thus far?

 

[PeeGee]

I can't help you with approaching groups of girls on the dance floor, because I've yet to see anybody do something that made sense (ie: falling into her ass doesn't really work, despite it being done out of 'confidence'). However your question about shoes is easy: wear what matches. And as for approaching groups of girls, get the eye contact from one and go for it. Better still, try the 'excuse me ladies I'm going to borrow your friend' or 'can I speak with you a second'.

I usually just go for the women who are by themselves, or the ones in a couple where one of the members has a partner going, and the other is just hanging around.

 

[white cloud 8]

Well.....what do I got to lose? I just have to go for it .

 

[quest]

your a robot?

thats an algorithm u'd use for programming, except, change the Q's to IF's..

dude.. heres how i prepare from a club.

3pm, get home from work.

5pm, finished getting dressed.

6pm, cracking first beer.

- after that, anything can happen..

(also all of that stuff is negotiable, especially since next week i finish working, due to uni going back)

 

[Dapper Swindler]

This is what I can tell you about my experiences at dance clubs:

Girls almost always go to clubs together and dance together in groups of 2-3. If a girl is dancing by herself then that makes me wonder.

This is my number one club rule: Don't take anything that happens in a club personally. People go for different reasons. They have different interpretations of what the "rules" are. And there are limitless opportunities for miscommunication. So never be offended or flattered. Not until you're talking with a girl and you can find out who she really is.

* one time I was dancing three feet away from a group of girls and one of them nearly slapped me away from them

* one time some girl was rubbing up against me and when I started dancing with her she walked away

* one time a girl started making out with me and in less than a minute was making out with someone else

Sometimes good things happen too. Some people are drunk, some people are sober. Some people are there for their first time and some people are there every night. But it's impossible to gauge these things for sure.

Trying to find someone to dance with is about risk versus reward. If you are going to take a risk then you increase your chances of rejection (which again, is why you shouldn't take anything personally)

Those girls dancing in groups are hard to gauge. They could be just waiting for a guy to come near them so they can start dancing with them. Or maybe they just want to be with their friends. There are actually girls that go to dance clubs to dance with their other girl friends and no guys. I've found both and everything in between.

Sometimes I go feeling sick of rejection so I just dance by myself until girls come up and start dancing with me. Sometimes this works and sometimes it doesn't.

If you want to take more of a risk then you can dance near someone you want to dance with. Try to get close and match your movements with theirs. Unless you want to take a big risk (with possible payoff), don't get closer then a foot unless they make a move.

But while you're playing it safe, there are guys there who won't and they might snatch up all the girls by taking risks first. Many times I see some girl who I don't think wants to dance with any guys and the next thing I know she is with some creep. It's all up to you how much risk you want to take. I suggest do whatever makes you have the most fun.

But enough rambling, I do have something useful to say. Although I haven't tried this yet I do believe this is very effective. If you just dance up next to someone and introduce yourself, you're chances of dancing with them improve 33%. Just by knowing your name, they feel so much more comfortable around you.

 

[white cloud 8]

Any other tips???

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by white cloud 8
Any other tips???

Sure. Use the search button. Gunwitch has an excellent guide to clubbing... (3rd result)

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search...id=70105&sortby=lastpost&sortorder=descending

 

[So Many Ways]

Find a good spot to post up.

Use your peripheral vision to locate good targets.

Establish eye contact with favorable targets and approach.

 

[backbreaker]

quest, that sounds alot like me.

I only go out on Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays, so when I get off of work I take a quick shower, make something to eat, and every thursday I go to the liquor store and get all of the liquor I need for the weekend, usually some 100 proof vodka, alazie, and coccanut rum and of course cokes, cranberry juice. I usually spend about 40 bucks or so, but I can EASILLY spend 40 in one night in drinks at the club.

100 proof vodka (sminoff) mixed with cranberry juice... I have a high tolorance for drinks, but 1 cup of this and I am tipsy... 2 cups and I usually don't need any more drinks... Alaze just takes soo good I drink it when I am just sitting around trying to keep the high.

But yeah, that sounds like a C+ program or something like that, it's really NOT THAT HARD.

Don't go to the club looking for owmen, go to have a great time.

 

[xiola]

this thread just made me lol. how do you have fun with a list like that???

i do all of that but its natural, dont even have to think about it. oh, but i have to have more money then for just a couple of drinks

 

[So pimp its scary]

Just remember this : If you are NOT having fun, you are doing something wrong.

 

[white cloud 8]

Originally posted by So pimp its scary
Just remember this : If you are NOT having fun, you are doing something wrong.

Yeah, you're right. I'm there to have some fun, and, if some girls aren't down with that then.....they're not worth my time .

 

[Chemistry]

DOUBLE POST

 

[Chemistry]

Always smell and look good... you shouldn't have to REMEMBER to smell and look good, lol...

Just make sure you look fresh... that means in tune with whatever the club you are going to is... so if you're into your rock chicks and you're going to that club don't be all italian designer labels and shoes, and vice versa...

But yea... its too stringent... if you've not got $$ there's always an ATM or you can buy on your card... and chances are if you are trying to remember a procedure you will forget to be natural and easy which is what really wins it over...

All you need is to look somewhere near your best since you're gonna be judged on looks by a lot of these people... have a few opening lines that you may use as well as being an observationalist should a good opening arise, and just be confident about yourself then you run with whatever situation is presented

 

[quest]

Originally posted by fuzzx


I goto clubs in cords/cargo($20) + T-shirt($10) + Zellers sneakers($15) and $10 more than it costs me to get in. Why? cause I learned how to attract all the attention of the club. You've got to be a good dancer, study breakdance! Spend the money on DANCE LESSONS not clothes and cologne! If you can pull air flares 2 feet off the ground and bust into some popping and tuts then you could be wearing spandex and smell like **** and women would still flock to you. If you don't dance then you better be the BEST looking sunofa***** in the club and have the most Alpha skills or you'll be sitting on the sidelines with the other GQs.

if it works for you. role with it.
i can't breakdance, and breakdancing at a club would be very difficult to do at any club i've ever been to.

i never stand on the sidelines. picking up at a club is a sinch.