Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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So I just discovered the DJ Boot Camp, and I thought I'd give it a try. My main flaw is failing to be the prize, the dominant male, and flying too far in the friendzone on most occasions. Let's see how far this gets me. So I start today. The exercises don't seem all that hard; make eye contact with everyone I see, and throw a few hellos and his in there as well. Pretty easy stuff. I'm just about to go out on the town and put these exercises into practice. I'll follow up before I get to bed tonight with anything special about the day. Also, It'd help if any of you actually care enough to read this and throw in some encouragement when times get hard or I have trouble with an exercise. Wish me luck!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So yesterday was pretty cool. I came home a tad wasted last night, so I thought I'd save it for tomorrow, which is now. The whole eye contact and greeting people with a short hello thing comes naturally, and is very easy. However, holding eye contact for a second longer than the other people made me cringe a bit, because I didn't want to come off as creepy by staring. In the end though, I felt a huge confidence boost. Not bad, this stuff seems to work. I'll continue this for a week and post if anything interesting happens along the way. This is exciting! :D
 

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Today ends day 2, and I've just come to the realization that I've said hi to like 5 people. Which leaves 45 more in 5 days. I'll be ambitious and say hi to 50 people in these 5 days; meaning 10 people a day. Easy enough. Oh, and I saw an incredible HB 9.5 on her cell phone today, didn't bother eye contacting/saying hi because I was with a friend & she was on her phone. Plus, I happened to share an elevator at work with a HB 4.5 co worker I've never seen before and for some reason couldn't establish eye contact. Probably because I was afraid of coming off as a staring creepy guy. (Any advice?) I feel this holds me back sometimes. I did feel a tad awkward because the elevator basically isolated just the two of us, you know? Oh well, baby steps I guess. Tomorrow's a new day. We'll see what comes my way. :)
 

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GO DUDE GO! Mad props to you for actually doing the boot camp. Its the only resource anyone needs from sosuave, and yet people just ask questions and try to get advice when really, all the answers are IN THE BIBLE AND IN THE BOOTCAMP EXERCIZES! Good for you dude.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Day 3 has come to a close. Pretty lame. I hope I'm not cheating the hi system. I went over to my best friend's office for some business. I go there like every week or so and everybody knows me pretty well. Still, I managed to say hi to at least 10 people there. I'm still a bit worried though, because technically I didn't say hi to total strangers, but to people I somewhat knew. It is a LOT harder to say hi to people withOUT initial eye contact. I failed at that today when I saw a married couple who never gave me eye contact, which stopped me from saying hello. :( I saw a lot of people walking around from place to place who wouldn't give me eye contact as well. These are the people I failed to say hi to. Which makes me feel like a failure. Damn. Also, I met two new friends of friends, we seemed to hit it off pretty well. But there was an awkward pause moment. I noticed how they were calm while I was a tad on my toes because they were new; giving them attention and whatnot. They probably think I'm weird now, but screw that lol I'll be the alpha in like 8 weeks. Let's see what tomorrow calls for. Till next time, SoSuave brothers! :)
 

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Today, Day 4 was alright. I've lost count of the number of people I said hi to, but I'm still keeping at it. I also approached a new woman who was a total *****. Of course, all that changed in my presence. I've got her digits, but not sure if I should use them now or wait till I'm somewhere better in the boot camp. Any insights? I'll keep up the exercises for the next 3 days and then it's on to week two. :)
 
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Today ends day 5. The ***** woman I referred to yesterday texted me today while I was busy boot camping, and she practically threw herself at me. Spoke about kissing me and everything. Practically begged me to call her. (Which I didn't just yet ;)) She's not an AW, quite the contrary in fact. She's pretty nice. Let's see where it goes. I don't really like her per sé, but it'd be pretty cool to do her. In other words, I'm on the fence. I feel like friendzoning her, but somewhere inside feel like tapping that as well. Any ideas? Besides the one woman, I said hi to more than 20 people in one go today, cutting through most of the boot camp work. Not bad for a day's work. We'll see what happens tomorrow. :)
 

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And just like that, I'm done with week #1. I must say, I notice a HUGE improvement in myself and my set of social skills already. If there was ever a highlight from lesson #1, it would be the awesome confidence boost I got when I first established and held eye contact with people for a second longer than they could hold it. The worst experience from this exercise was probably people not responding to my hi's, or in a moment of weakness, me unknowlingly not holding eye contact. But overall, it was amazing. So from today starts week #2. Let's see what happens. :)
 

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So I've been out of touch for quite some time. Today ends week #2. Pretty good week, kept up awesome conversations with strangers. Not too hard. Nothing really exciting. I just realize how easy it is to talk to people & keep them entertained for long periods of time. Also, I have this uncanny ability to turn people into my best friends by just speaking to them for a few minutes. Nice. Today starts week #3. Let's see how it goes. I'll update here if anything interesting happens. :)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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