What do you do when you go limited contact on someone means letting them initiate all conversations but it doesn't lead to desired results. I've had a sort of history with this one girl and I've no idea how to handle the situation with her. I know I did not handle it like a pro/don juan and I need to know how can I improve my game. I can be totally suave with every other girl but theres just something about this one where either we end up arguing & fighting or we end up flirting like crazy & sleeping together.
After being all cold with me one day she sends me a text at 3.30 am saying
HER : remembered you yday. had a mojito.
ME : What was the ocassion.
Almost a year back we had a mojito and things were going great then so I knew what she was talking about. She doesn't have alcohol so I was kinda curious. But still she didn't reply. Next day no calls or reply texts.
The day after that I call her up she talks as if she's least concerned and she's laughing with her girlfriends and cutting me off mid sentence. Kinda annoys me and i call her out on it. Now we're both head strong and she never compromises and accepts her mistakes and we end up arguing. then she negs me about how i go out with other girls and if she were doing the same i wouldn't even be talking to her bla bla bla. then she complains about being sleepy and goes off to bed.
So i go NC on her and decide to ignore her & convinced myself as well that she ain't interested anymore. few days later she calls up again around 12 am. i don't receive as Im out with a friend. go home and return her call. And theres just awkward conversation :
ME : Hello
HER : Hello
ME : Say
HER : Nothing
there was lots of background noise so
ME : Where are you
HER :Out.
ME : Out where
HER : At a party
ME : Whats the place
HER (In a rude tone) : Do you know every place here ? (She is in a different city)
ME : Let it be. I was out as well, just returned home.
HER : Yea I figured that.
HER : I'll call you back I'm eating.
ME : Bye
HER : Bye
Almost an hour later she calls
HER : say
ME : done with your food.
HER : Just returned home.
ME : So what did you do at the party besides eating.
She cuts me off coz her roommate comes talking about some issue involving one of her friends and it seemed kinda serious coz the other girl was all sobbing and the girl i was talking with was consoling her. Ive always hated her friends with their shallow issues and coz many a times our relationship was affected coz of them.
HER : Yea say.
ME : What was that about.
HER : Some issue involving (friend's name)
ME : Care to explain
HER : Why do you want to know
ME : I'm just curious coz I happen to get some part of story
HER : Its none of your business.
ME : I never said its my business. But whats the big deal about it
HER : Why do you want to know
ME : Because you don't wanna tell me.(a lil angry)
HER : I dont wanna tell you coz you want to know. I'm sleepy now.
ME : Why cant you have a normal conversation with me without picking up a fight.
HER : I dont know. Lets sleep or we will fight more. I'm sorry I called you up.
ME : Do you wish to tell me anything or just called like that.
HER : No nothing just like that.
ME : Well then why dont you speak instead of being a mute.
HER : Coz when you called back I was not in a position to speak.
ME : Yea even then when I asked you about where you at then instead of answering normally you think of it as an inquiry and tell me sh*t about me not knowing all the places in (city's name). You can go party on the moon, I could care less. I was just making small talk and don't use that tone with me.(in an agressive tone)
HER : That is not how the conversation went. I told you I was out at a party bla bla bla(she added her own spin).
Then she started talking about how she has decided to get her blackberry service activated and went off to sleep with the call still on)
I disconnected and called her back from a different number. No answer. Few minutes later she calls back in a sleepy voice.
ME : you dozed off huh
HER : yea.(she really sounded sleepy)
ME : Ok go off to sleep then. & you might have a missed call from an unknown number that's mine
HER : When did you get a new number.
ME : A while back.
HER : when ?
ME(shouted with an annoyed voice) : it's a complimentary sim card.
HER : Why are you shouting at me (in a girly voice).
ME : goodnight & you can send your BB PIN once you get it activated if you want to (& disconnected)
Thing is this girl needs to know what I'm upto and who I'm with and would not accept abstract answers like the ones she gives. and yet when i ask simple questions it leads to us fighting. both of us have a history and are very radio active and headstrong with each other. I feel like ignoring her till judgement day but when she calls i do give in thinking maybe we will talk about interesting & fascinating things we used to for hours.
Now when she calls up she responds in one word two word sentences and all the while other bimbos are around laughing and joking around which pisses me off to no limit. I can handle sh*tty behaviour from every other girl except this one chick. If she doesn't care then why bother me at such late hours. Any advice as to how to handle conversations with her. Right now I'm on the autopilot mode of NC/Limited Contact which happens after every argument till the pattern repeats.
After being all cold with me one day she sends me a text at 3.30 am saying
HER : remembered you yday. had a mojito.
ME : What was the ocassion.
Almost a year back we had a mojito and things were going great then so I knew what she was talking about. She doesn't have alcohol so I was kinda curious. But still she didn't reply. Next day no calls or reply texts.
The day after that I call her up she talks as if she's least concerned and she's laughing with her girlfriends and cutting me off mid sentence. Kinda annoys me and i call her out on it. Now we're both head strong and she never compromises and accepts her mistakes and we end up arguing. then she negs me about how i go out with other girls and if she were doing the same i wouldn't even be talking to her bla bla bla. then she complains about being sleepy and goes off to bed.
So i go NC on her and decide to ignore her & convinced myself as well that she ain't interested anymore. few days later she calls up again around 12 am. i don't receive as Im out with a friend. go home and return her call. And theres just awkward conversation :
ME : Hello
HER : Hello
ME : Say
HER : Nothing
there was lots of background noise so
ME : Where are you
HER :Out.
ME : Out where
HER : At a party
ME : Whats the place
HER (In a rude tone) : Do you know every place here ? (She is in a different city)
ME : Let it be. I was out as well, just returned home.
HER : Yea I figured that.
HER : I'll call you back I'm eating.
ME : Bye
HER : Bye
Almost an hour later she calls
HER : say
ME : done with your food.
HER : Just returned home.
ME : So what did you do at the party besides eating.
She cuts me off coz her roommate comes talking about some issue involving one of her friends and it seemed kinda serious coz the other girl was all sobbing and the girl i was talking with was consoling her. Ive always hated her friends with their shallow issues and coz many a times our relationship was affected coz of them.
HER : Yea say.
ME : What was that about.
HER : Some issue involving (friend's name)
ME : Care to explain
HER : Why do you want to know
ME : I'm just curious coz I happen to get some part of story
HER : Its none of your business.
ME : I never said its my business. But whats the big deal about it
HER : Why do you want to know
ME : Because you don't wanna tell me.(a lil angry)
HER : I dont wanna tell you coz you want to know. I'm sleepy now.
ME : Why cant you have a normal conversation with me without picking up a fight.
HER : I dont know. Lets sleep or we will fight more. I'm sorry I called you up.
ME : Do you wish to tell me anything or just called like that.
HER : No nothing just like that.
ME : Well then why dont you speak instead of being a mute.
HER : Coz when you called back I was not in a position to speak.
ME : Yea even then when I asked you about where you at then instead of answering normally you think of it as an inquiry and tell me sh*t about me not knowing all the places in (city's name). You can go party on the moon, I could care less. I was just making small talk and don't use that tone with me.(in an agressive tone)
HER : That is not how the conversation went. I told you I was out at a party bla bla bla(she added her own spin).
Then she started talking about how she has decided to get her blackberry service activated and went off to sleep with the call still on)
I disconnected and called her back from a different number. No answer. Few minutes later she calls back in a sleepy voice.
ME : you dozed off huh
HER : yea.(she really sounded sleepy)
ME : Ok go off to sleep then. & you might have a missed call from an unknown number that's mine
HER : When did you get a new number.
ME : A while back.
HER : when ?
ME(shouted with an annoyed voice) : it's a complimentary sim card.
HER : Why are you shouting at me (in a girly voice).
ME : goodnight & you can send your BB PIN once you get it activated if you want to (& disconnected)
Thing is this girl needs to know what I'm upto and who I'm with and would not accept abstract answers like the ones she gives. and yet when i ask simple questions it leads to us fighting. both of us have a history and are very radio active and headstrong with each other. I feel like ignoring her till judgement day but when she calls i do give in thinking maybe we will talk about interesting & fascinating things we used to for hours.
Now when she calls up she responds in one word two word sentences and all the while other bimbos are around laughing and joking around which pisses me off to no limit. I can handle sh*tty behaviour from every other girl except this one chick. If she doesn't care then why bother me at such late hours. Any advice as to how to handle conversations with her. Right now I'm on the autopilot mode of NC/Limited Contact which happens after every argument till the pattern repeats.
