Likes to be chased? Or uninterested?

[Sam1992]

So I started talking to this girl that went to the same middle school as I did. We haven't seen each other in like four years so I figured what the hell? Give it a shot.

So we talked back and forth on FB for like a week before she suggested that we hang out. So I picked her up and went for coffee like two weeks ago and I think we had a good time. Then last week we went out again for mini golf then coffee. Again I thought we had a good time just based on how she was acting like smiling and laughing. Also she seemed to tell me more about her past and speak more openly compared to the first time. She always dresses up and puts on makeup and looks great when I pick her up. I am almost 99% certain that these could be considered dates. The problem is that I'm the one ALWAYS making the initial contact and aside from suggesting we get together organizing stuff. I know the rule of not pursuing just one girl and I'm currently working on getting to know more people at my college.

My question is that since I'm the one doing all the initial contact and essentially all the work is she interested? We haven't seen each other in a long time so at first I thought she was shy but she doesn't seem to be like that. Is this worth pursuing or just ending contact for good? Is it normal for the guy to do everything?

 

[Tiguere]

How come youve gone on 2 dates already and havent kissed her.???

 

[Sam1992]

Well in retrospect probably should've made a move like that on the 2nd one. But at the time I wasn't sure that it was a date. Just by reviewing it later it got me to thinking that both could be considered dates. I mean she's always eager to hang out but I'm the one always planning it. In addition to texting first or messaging first on FB.

 

[Elky]

"Date" is just a word. Nothing more. You are with that girl, one on one. The time you spend together, and the things you do together are what truly matter.

 

[maqnetik]

maybe you should be making all the effort with somebody else?

 

[sodbuster]

MEN have to lead. It's rare that a woman will come up to me in the bar and grab my"richard". it' happened twice this year,but I'm not waiting around for chances to only date 2 women in a year[when they may not be what I want]. You have to go after what YOU want.

 

[Korrupt]

So I started talking to this girl that went to the same middle school as I did. We haven't seen each other in like four years so I figured what the hell? Give it a shot.

So we talked back and forth on FB for like a week before she suggested that we hang out. So I picked her up and went for coffee like two weeks ago and I think we had a good time. Then last week we went out again for mini golf then coffee. Again I thought we had a good time just based on how she was acting like smiling and laughing. Also she seemed to tell me more about her past and speak more openly compared to the first time. She always dresses up and puts on makeup and looks great when I pick her up. I am almost 99% certain that these could be considered dates. The problem is that I'm the one ALWAYS making the initial contact and aside from suggesting we get together organizing stuff. I know the rule of not pursuing just one girl and I'm currently working on getting to know more people at my college.

My question is that since I'm the one doing all the initial contact and essentially all the work is she interested? We haven't seen each other in a long time so at first I thought she was shy but she doesn't seem to be like that. Is this worth pursuing or just ending contact for good? Is it normal for the guy to do everything?

Are you "going out" on all these dates? Like in public every time? Are you buying her sh*t? You two seem comfortable with each other, why don't you go to her place or your place for a "date" so you isolate her and can actually make a sexual move on her?