"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Snowman23

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There's this girl at work I'm interested in. We always make eye contact and smile when we walk past each other, and I kinda felt a connection. I was going to ask her out, however... today at lunch she sat next to this guy, who is taller and I admit, better looking than me. And I'm good looking so that makes me mad. They don't work in the same department and I've never seen them talk before. They both left the lunchroom at the same time too. what's the deal? Whatever the case, it took the wind out of my sails. How would you guys approach this? And please don't say "Ohh just ask her out." Be realistic.

Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Crimson Tide

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i didn't think it was a big deal until you said they left at the same time. that wasn't a good sign. it's not something people do unless they know each other. my guess would be they're dating.

hmm, it's a tough one though.
 

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Snowman23 said:
There's this girl at work I'm interested in. We always make eye contact and smile when we walk past each other, and I kinda felt a connection. I was going to ask her out, however... today at lunch she sat next to this guy, who is taller and I admit, better looking than me. And I'm good looking so that makes me mad. They don't work in the same department and I've never seen them talk before. They both left the lunchroom at the same time too. what's the deal? Whatever the case, it took the wind out of my sails. How would you guys approach this? And please don't say "Ohh just ask her out." Be realistic.

Thanks.
Dating at work? :nono:

-AS
 

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There are two philosophy's in life concerning women. All women have boyfriends/husbands. Or, all women are single. You must choose one and live by it.
 

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i have an exercise for you Snowman. Go to a bar any night, and look for a guy and a girl sitting together. walk up to them and ask "excuse me, I'm sorry to interrupt, but you look like interesting people and I just wanted to know how you two know each other."

I bet you money that you will immediately assume that they're dating. And I also bet you the same amount of money that quite often it will be no such thing.

Assumptions are death. DJs do not assume anything. They ask. They want to know for sure. And quite often - quite quite often - a man out with a woman is an AFC who's attempting to hit on her without risking anything. Perfect time for you to move in and show him how it's done. That guy very well might have been waiting for her to say "Well, i need to get back to work' and then he walked her out.

Do not assume. Act.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I agree, don't assume anything about their relationship, maybe they both just wanted company for lunch! It sounds cheesy no matter how you go about it, but dropping a "boyfriend" comment is always the best way to find out if she has one or not: Slipping a "so what does your boyfriend do?" type question into your next conversation with her should tell you all you need to know. And if she doesn't have one, it lets her know you're interested!
 

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I checked this thread earlier and thought "man, you guys are right". Well I walked into work today and they were both standing in the middle of the hallway talking. Then departed to where they were going. I mean, they just look like they're a couple. And they have no business talking to each other because like I said, they're both in different departments, so how do they know each other? I could tell it wasn't small talk - they knew each other.

It's not rocket science. They must be dating.

BTW - I'm good looking, but so is this guy. Plus he's older and about 6 inches taller.

whaaatever....
 

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These dumbasses need to take the blinders off. It ain't looking good bro. Personally, I wouldn't bother with her.
 

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do not ask if that's her boyfriend, that's gay, problem is you are too pumped up on this chick, put it on the backburner, go look at other skirts. come back to this later when you can look at it and not get all wired. you're losing your mind. be calm and collective.
 
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