Like a girl from my class

[Sin Verdad]

There is this girl that was in my class last semester (school is out on break). I have a crush on her. She is the prettiest girl I've ever seen. Dark brown hair, dark eyes, brown skin. Not only that, but she is also extremely smart and has good morals. I talked to her and from advice in the DJ bible I asked to trade info for our class and got her #.

Now we have hung out a few times over the semester, but I never tried a kiss or anything (she was seeing this other guy, but not anymore). She even texted me "Merry Christmas" this morning and we have plans to hang out next week. She doesn't really give me any IOIs but I think she is just conservative.

How do I approach this to make her my girlfriend?

 

[reasonpolice]

Well, two things I notice right off the bat:

You seem to be getting pretty attached to her, I understand that you like her, but you gotta be prepared to let her go before you try anything.

Also, are you sure it was a good idea to use your class as a reason for getting her number? I mean, I'd like to think girls aren't completely clueless and that she can tell you like her, but isn't it always better to make your intentions clear?

All I can say is, with whatever other advice you get on here, always make sure to show your real intentions (I.E. your sexual side, and obviously without talking about it, use kino, etc.)

Good luck!

 

[AAAgent]

you're putting her on a pedestal. Stop.

She's not perfect or an angel. She's only human, so treat her like one.

Once you finish doing that, then come back for advice.

 

[phatboi408]

Go out and get a life.

 

[Sin Verdad]

You seem to be getting pretty attached to her, I understand that you like her, but you gotta be prepared to let her go before you try anything.

How do I do this? I mean I go to a pretty small school and no other girl even compares.

Also, are you sure it was a good idea to use your class as a reason for getting her number? I mean, I'd like to think girls aren't completely clueless and that she can tell you like her, but isn't it always better to make your intentions clear?

I read that on a post here once and it seemed like a good idea.

All I can say is, with whatever other advice you get on here, always make sure to show your real intentions (I.E. your sexual side, and obviously without talking about it, use kino, etc.)

I would do this, but I want to be sure she likes me before I try anything. Also, I don't have a car so if I ask her to a date I'm going to have to make her drive! It makes me not want to ask her.

 

[Exhumed]

You make sure she likes you by touching her lightly and seeing how she reacts (kino), having sexual conversation (if she turns the conversation sexual out of nowhere, she probably likes you), flirting with her, etc.

And why can't you meet girls from other schools? If you're in high school make some female friends and then get with her friends from other schools. If you're in college...um....well my college has probably 10,000 or so attractive girls so I don't know what to tell you there.

 

[Sin Verdad]

Update: Party tonight! Our mutual friend invited me to an after christmas party tonight. I'm pretty sure she is going to be there. I think tonight will be a big night to see if it was meant to be or not. I am going to bring my "A" game tonight. Lots of ****y and funny. Any other tips? I just hope she is there, lol.

 

[reasonpolice]

Well from what you replied to me with, you're going to get friendzoned. Fast.

 

[wjh]

Any other tips? I just hope she is there, lol.

YES, don't get drunk IF she's there, so that you don't do or say anything stupid.

IF she's NOT there, take it as an opportunity to meet and talk to new girls. Don't waste any opportunities or you'll have regrets later. If this girl really is as hot as you're making her out to seem, you're not the only guy interested in her.

You have to stand out. You have to be confident, you have to be willing to let her go if she doesn't do what YOU want. She has to fall into YOUR frame, not the other way around. Otherwise you'll just get an LJBF rejection.

IF you're going to do something, I suggest you game as hard as you can, and crash and burn to learn the absolute most from this.

A lot of guys came here after being embarrassed, after losing a girl they thought they really wanted, etc. Those encounters were blessings in disguise because the potential for growth here makes it possible so that you can have girls as hot or hotter. You just have to be willing to take the advice of some of the wiser guys AND put it into action. Without resolve this is all pointless.

 

[Sin Verdad]

Went to the party last night. She was there! Had a great time. I talked to other girls too but here is what happened with this girl I like:

-Mutual friend and I were talking when she came up! This was the first time I noticed her that night and she looked gorgeous. Tight jeans and a sweater and a green scarf. Anyways, we all talked and laughed for a bit and I used kino for a bit and ****y and funny.

-The first thing I said to her was that her scarf really brought out her pretty eyes. My legs were literally shaking when I said this haha.

-At one time she said something about how I like her and I said "Of course, everyone likes you princess!" LOL. She told me "Shut up" and walked into another group but I kept seeing her glance at me.

-She told this tall, muscular guy to go get a drink with her and they went into the kitchen. I was a little jealous because I'm 5'7'' and only a little above average looking but I remembered that it's not about looks but personality and attitude that create attraction. I kept noticing her look at me when she was in the kitchen with that guy too. I went up to them both a little later and introduced myself to the guy and we had fun small talk to show her I was comfortable with that.

-when she left she said goodbye to me and mutual friend and that she would see us soon. She hugged me! Pretty good IOI.

Anyways, pretty successful night. I am mad that I didn't get to isolate her and make a bigger move but I layed some good groundwork tonight. I may be going out with mutual friend for new years so hopefully I can see her then.

 

[AAAgent]

you fail.

she went off with another guy during the night and you call that success. you sound like a typical afc. "She hugged me!" im the greatest! she's going home and fvcking some other guy but i succeeded!

hugging in the right context is an IOI. hugging is normal for girls and they hug almost anyone and everyone. Stop putting her on a pedastool. Look at all girls equally and go after more than just one, this way u have your pick of the liter. When u do finally weed out all the bad ones and make ur decision then that's a different story. You're putting all your eggs in one basket and u don't even get to take that basket home and you consider that success?!?

 

[Ease]

The simple solution to this is to kiss her.

Kiss her. Dont think, just do it. asap.

 

[Sin Verdad]

She went off with that other guy I think to make me jealous (she kept looking over at me). Anyways, I am thinking about texting her today. Maybe ask her if she had a good time last night?

 

[r0cky]

She went off with that other guy I think to make me jealous (she kept looking over at me). Anyways, I am thinking about texting her today. Maybe ask her if she had a good time last night?

For the love of god dont ask her that please. Theres no need to contact her after she left with the other guy. If you insist on doing so, at least wait a week before you contact her again. hopefully your desperation has worn off by then.

 

[wjh]

ONLY contact her to set up a date, not to chit chat. Save the chatter for your date and mix it with subtle, yet confident, sexual intentions. Remember kino. Don't be a friend, be a lover. A strong, sexual, confident lover - not a pussified AFC. Mack! And report back with your results, soldier.

 

[Sin Verdad]

I'm not going to call because it would see desperate. We're going to see each other New Years Eve anyways. It would be perfect to kiss her at midnight. Does anyone know how I could ask her to kiss me at midnight? If someone can tell me exactly what to say, word for word, it would be appreciated.

 

[AAAgent]

don't ask..... you never ask. if she's next to you when the ball is about to drop on new years just kiss her.

 

[Diaforetikos]

Dood, you are way too gitty about her. It's ok to have a girl your attracted in your life, but don't forget that there are other women out there. If she isn't into you, your gonna be devastated. Learn that losing a girl isn't a problem. Even if she is your dream girl, you'll find another one soon after.

Also, you need to push her away some. Your too easy for her. Give her something to work for. She may get bored of you, so becareful.

I recommend just kissing her. No hesitation. I recently gave my coworker a hug. She's into me, but i could care less about her. Anyways, during the hug, as I pulled back, all I had to do was go for the kiss. Bam! Easy. The longer you hesitate, the less of chance you have.

Overall, just learn to be more risky about things. You could die the day after new years and not have kissed her. Instant regret. Hop on it man. Make things happen. YOU decide on what you want to happen. Do what it takes!!

 

[Sin Verdad]

I'm sorry I know I am too giddy aout her. I just feel like this girl is a diamond in the rough and I dont want to blow it. I think she is a virgin too which is an added bonus.

Ok, I have a plan for New Years Eve where I will kiss her.

 

[Exhumed]

Solid plan, assuming it's not any more complicated than that