"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Light or Dark side of the DJ force

what side of the DJ force are you on?

  • men should just next girls that say they only want to be friends and not care (dark side of the forc

    Votes: 44 55.0%
  • men should enjoy the pursuit of all women and shouldn't next girls that only want to be friends (lig

    Votes: 36 45.0%

  • Total voters
    80

00Kevin

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how many of you guys think

a. men should just next girls that say they only want to be friends and not care (dark side of the force).

or

b. men should enjoy the pursuit of all women and shouldn't next girls that only want to be friends (light side of the force)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I take it the 'Dark Side' is the right path and good!! Boys want 'friends', men want 'women'!!!
 

00Kevin

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
I take it the 'Dark Side' is the right path and good!! Boys want 'friends', men want 'women'!!!
it should be interesting to see how people reply
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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it's about being a man. if a girl you were interested in all of a sudden drops you like a brick, WALK AWAY. if a girl is ugly and you see her initially as a friend and she likes hanging out with you , then that's FRIENDSHIP because you weren't interested in her romantically.
 

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Pursuit of women? Yeah i used to be like that... used to love the thrill of the chase, and often just aim to have women want me badly and get them in the state that i know i could take things all the way if i desired. I think this is a particular stage of DJ where you've been introduced to the concepts, you've had a bit of experience, its starting to work for you and now your just having fun with it seeing how far you can take things- what challenges you can overcome. Sounds a bit like c0ck-teasing girls.

But then, you will change again, and realise- F$%k chasing women! WTF? You think i've got time to invest in chasing some woman? I'm too busy for that. I've got much better things to do. Heck, i can't believe i even considered spending my invaluable time doing something so outrageous.

Instead you start doing so much more things that are more productive and beneficial in life. And you may think "oh, i'm not working on my game to get women, i won't get any!" And that is a misconception. Without realising you infact make yourself far more appealing to the female species. Soon you will discover more worthy women who are far less likely to play games, flake, turn out as psycho's etc. and who are genuinely interested in you for who you really are.

So yeah, get in this state, and then you don't ever have to worry about 'should i purse this women' its just not an issue.

Cheers,
f.
 

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Quoting from coupling:

"Do you have any women friends?"

"Of course, as long as it takes"


I,

if a girl says LJBF, she is gone... Out of my game,

But some girls, for which I have no physical attraction, can be my friends.

The rest, I want to lay
 

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LJBF is great, you get a friend for social proof and get to know her HB friends. This is exponencial growth.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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00Kevin

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well it is starting to become clear that there are different concepts of what a DJ is on this board.

but as always, the dark side of the force is powerfull :)
 

Wonderbread166

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Hmm let's think about this.

You're saying that the light side is DJs that still may pursue women who LJBF them, and the dark side is DJs who don't?

What kind of logic is that?

Hard to say which side I'm on, because my decision varies, even though the light side doesn't seem any lighter than the dark side.
 

mtllcanpssy

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Wat the hell. Its not a bad thing to have an actual friend thats a girl. Like others said its social proof n then u get to met all their girlfriends. N its one more friend to confide if ur feeling depressed or something. However i wud only befriend them if i actually got to know them n become a descent friend with, otherwise id next them,
 

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If she doesn't respect the time and effort you put into her, don't put any into her. Don't worry about making her like you...if you know you're likeable, then her choosing not to like you is an error on her part. If you know your efforts are valuable and she chooses not to respect that value, again her error.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kineti[C]harm

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Female friends = THE BEST!

Social-proof, social-circle (MEET EVEN MORE GIRLS WHICH ARE EASIER TO LAY DUE TO SP)... etc etc.

I have WAY more female friends than male.
 
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Originally posted by Spike_Tha_Cowboy
I love and respect all women, plus they're fun to go shopping with.
lol, this imposter is killin me :)
 

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I don't know because of what happened

I did vote for the light side but I am coming to a crossroads. Most women I have become friends with have either burnt me really bad or something has happened that is bad.

My semi date, after the semi stopped talking to me and blocked my IM name from her list. I went on my friends list and her name was up. I said "hi".
"Who is this"
"Kyle H."
"Do I know you"
I then said "WTF. You don't talk to me anymore and blocked me."
"Oh that Kyle. I didn't block you but I have to go"
"No, let me save you some time and I think I will go."
Left the computer because I was disgusted with this.
Two days later, I don't even communicate with her. She unblocks me and wants to talk to me in school. I say "I don't know. Maybe. if I can find some time to talk I will." :D

Other times, I ask a chick out, she totally freaks out and has not talked to me since I asked her. These chicks was before I was a DJ but they still won't talk to me. And they were in the hell that I call a "friend zone".

Some chicks (not stupid or any sh!t like that) I can see still see being friends (i.e. social Proof and some have some hot friends) with but most of them as soon as I next them they will never get a chance with me again. I feel pity for them too.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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