"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Light and Dark , by Style

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Read this post at :
http://www.bristollair.com/inner-game/understanding/light-and-dark.html

Here it is pasted below. Hope you guys like it.

Light and Dark
by Style

The community is a forking path. And it can lead you into the light or the darkness. The choice is yours.
Whenever I discuss the community with outsiders, the same questions always come up. And there is no clear-cut answer for them. A lot of people want to pass judgement on us for being here, if they know about it. But I know for sure that it's made me a MUCH better person. When people see videos or photos of me prior to this, they can't even believe it's the same guy.

But there are also people I've met who were really cool guys when they entered the community. And now they are completely passionless social robots (and I've posted about that already in the past).

So the way I see it now is that the community is a forking path. And it can lead you into the light or the darkness. The choice is yours.

The light is a place where you are at your best all the time. It is where you finally find yourself and bring out all the personality and spark and confidence and charm and humor and talent that only your mother ever knew you had before. It is where all the schools of seduction and routines are just training wheels on the journey to self-realization. (Whoah, this is sounding more new-agey than I intended.) But it's true: women are EXTREMELY attracted to guys when they do something -- even a small gesture -- that is totally original and pure and unselfconscious, and at the same time lovable. So if the community is bringing you out of your shell, improving your social skills in all areas of your life, making you move through the world more confidently, making you the master of your reality, improving your physical appearance, widening your circle of friends, acquaintances, and women, -- and ultimately making you a happier person -- then you are in the light.

The dark is a place where you lose yourself. It's where you slavishly imitate and model other people. It's where somewhere deep inside you hate yourself and don't believe that people will like you if you reveal your true self. It's where you start hurting or deceiving people -- men, women, whatever. It's where you look at yourself in the mirror and see Tyler Durden, Mystery, Style, or Badboy staring back at you. It's where you lose touch with your friends and family, and only hang out with sargers. And the only reason you pull women is so that you can win the respect of other sargers. It's where you make learning pickup the number one priority in your life, and neglect the things that will lead to a real career. It's where you look at the world through dead eyes because you've lost your soul.

Step back for a moment, and look at your experiences in the community. Make sure that you are on the right path. If not, separate yourself from your community friends, enjoy some non-sarging-related activities or take a road trip to the beach, and then return re-invigorated and ready to begin the vigorous course of all-round self-improvement that we're here for.

Hope this helps, and isn't too obvious...

Style
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Style is a wise man

People can easily lose themselves in their quest for success with women.
 

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there's more to life than girls!
 

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It's best he stay with the written word as his medium because when he opens his cakehole it sounds like a couple of cats fvcking. He sounds more like a b!tch than most flaming gay freaks.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I like Style, because he's one of the very few PUAs who keeps things in perspective and doesn't appear to have allowed his transformation to affect his priorities. He mastered the game, and in doing so, mastered his understanding of himself--and that's really what it's all about in the first place. Once you've gotten fully comfortable with your natural identity, you'll continue to subconsciously project the same type of magnetism that got you laid back when it really was a game.

The fact he looks and sounds like a geek is inspiring, because it offers tangible evidence that it's more about how you push a woman's buttons, and less about how you push a gym's barbells.
 

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I agree with the post.

But I will point out that dark, hateful feelings, can lead to happiness & success as well, if used correctly & positively.
 

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I've lost myself in this whole thing, and I'll die before I give up.

Just my opinion. Props to Strauss and all he's done for the community, and all he continues to do.
 
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