"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Lifting and Sleeping

yungahdubz

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Before I had started lifting, i could sleep alright. After that i had started doing the stronglifts 5x5.

For about about the 3 months i was lifting i needed to use melatonin on a Sunday, Monday and a few times on a Tuesday for me to sleep okay.

In the past 2 weeks when I havent lifted I've noticed i havent had to use melatonin once, no waking up in the middle of the night and not much tiredness in the morning.

there must be some sort of correlation, has anyone else exeprienced something similar to this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mikeyb

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Do you lift in the morning or at night? When is your last meal and what does it consist of? Do you use any supplements?
 

yungahdubz

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I lift at night, 7 and go to bed at 10.

I'd finish my last meal at about 6ish and it almost always consists of about 7 chapatis, a bowl of rice with daal and some sort of curry to eat the chapaits with.

Its not the type of curry you'd find in ur local indian, its a lot healthier, same with the chapati's. The 'curry' is just made up of vegetables.

Some days its beans, other days its aubergine(sp?) mixed with peas and potatoes. Lots of variations.

Also, to drink i have a youghurt drink mixed with water, salt and cumin in it.
 

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I'm going to bet that if you lift in the morning or before 5PM, you'll stop having these problems.

Part of the reason we work out is to raise our metabolic rate and heart rate. Your heart rate is still going to be elevated for many hours after working out, so the longer the time between working out and sleeping, the better.

I work out usually at 3-4PM and never have these problems, but if I work out just before bed, I can get to sleep fine but I wake up and kick around during the night.
 

yungahdubz

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Hmmm, well waking up at 5 am will be well hard for me! But ill workout at about 4:00 pm when i get home for a few weeks and see how i sleep.

Cheers for the advice
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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