I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This is dependent on how heavy you're going and the exercises you're performing. Take the bench press for example. If you're lifting heavy, doing explosive movements are good, in that the weight is not going to move overly quickly, so the correct muscles are still being targeted throughout the movement. If you're lifting too light all that happens is your pecs, anterior delts and triceps are VERY BRIEFLY engaged as you explode out, but in order to control the bar so it doesn't fly away all their opposing muscle groups engage to DE-ACCELERATE the weight. So in actual fact it's more of a back workout. To remedy this, explode out and LET GO OF THE BAR. Obviously for safety you should be doing this on a smith-machine. Or you could super-set a nice heavy bench-press with explosive push-ups (put your feet on the bench) Try these exercises - you'll feel the difference.I lift fast becasue I am training to do explosive movements. Full range of motion, especially on flat/incline/decline bench with fast repititions.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i completly agree, and should have elaborated. Only certain excersises are ment to be done this way, primarily bench, and obviously cleans and the like.Originally posted by Un-Aru
This is dependent on how heavy you're going and the exercises you're performing. Take the bench press for example. If you're lifting heavy, doing explosive movements are good, in that the weight is not going to move overly quickly, so the correct muscles are still being targeted throughout the movement. If you're lifting too light all that happens is your pecs, anterior delts and triceps are VERY BRIEFLY engaged as you explode out, but in order to control the bar so it doesn't fly away all their opposing muscle groups engage to DE-ACCELERATE the weight. So in actual fact it's more of a back workout. To remedy this, explode out and LET GO OF THE BAR. Obviously for safety you should be doing this on a smith-machine. Or you could super-set a nice heavy bench-press with explosive push-ups (put your feet on the bench) Try these exercises - you'll feel the difference.
Your primary goal is a strength increase. Lifting nice heavy weights for a good 8-10 weeks will help you here. The mass increase will come from your diet, and there's plenty of diet advice on this board. Then start switching to a power workout 6-8 weeks before the season starts to improve explosive power and speed.
For true explosive power though, you can't beat plyometrics.
not sure what people are telling you, always explosive up, controlled down.Originally posted by Snap87
Sup. Should i lift my weights slow or fast to get good gains? I am mostly wanting good strength gains for football, but i also want some mass. I hear some people saying something like at the beginning go slow like 2 seconds, then explode fast back. What do you guys think?
THANKS!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.