You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This is dependent on how heavy you're going and the exercises you're performing. Take the bench press for example. If you're lifting heavy, doing explosive movements are good, in that the weight is not going to move overly quickly, so the correct muscles are still being targeted throughout the movement. If you're lifting too light all that happens is your pecs, anterior delts and triceps are VERY BRIEFLY engaged as you explode out, but in order to control the bar so it doesn't fly away all their opposing muscle groups engage to DE-ACCELERATE the weight. So in actual fact it's more of a back workout. To remedy this, explode out and LET GO OF THE BAR. Obviously for safety you should be doing this on a smith-machine. Or you could super-set a nice heavy bench-press with explosive push-ups (put your feet on the bench) Try these exercises - you'll feel the difference.I lift fast becasue I am training to do explosive movements. Full range of motion, especially on flat/incline/decline bench with fast repititions.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
i completly agree, and should have elaborated. Only certain excersises are ment to be done this way, primarily bench, and obviously cleans and the like.Originally posted by Un-Aru
This is dependent on how heavy you're going and the exercises you're performing. Take the bench press for example. If you're lifting heavy, doing explosive movements are good, in that the weight is not going to move overly quickly, so the correct muscles are still being targeted throughout the movement. If you're lifting too light all that happens is your pecs, anterior delts and triceps are VERY BRIEFLY engaged as you explode out, but in order to control the bar so it doesn't fly away all their opposing muscle groups engage to DE-ACCELERATE the weight. So in actual fact it's more of a back workout. To remedy this, explode out and LET GO OF THE BAR. Obviously for safety you should be doing this on a smith-machine. Or you could super-set a nice heavy bench-press with explosive push-ups (put your feet on the bench) Try these exercises - you'll feel the difference.
Your primary goal is a strength increase. Lifting nice heavy weights for a good 8-10 weeks will help you here. The mass increase will come from your diet, and there's plenty of diet advice on this board. Then start switching to a power workout 6-8 weeks before the season starts to improve explosive power and speed.
For true explosive power though, you can't beat plyometrics.
not sure what people are telling you, always explosive up, controlled down.Originally posted by Snap87
Sup. Should i lift my weights slow or fast to get good gains? I am mostly wanting good strength gains for football, but i also want some mass. I hear some people saying something like at the beginning go slow like 2 seconds, then explode fast back. What do you guys think?
THANKS!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.