"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lifestyles vs. Hobbies? JEEP lovers

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Where I live, let's just say "muddin'" is popular with JEEP owners, then of course you have your Harley Davidson riders. Not into any of that, except I may ride along or something for sh*ts n giggles.

But to limit yourself to a niche' specific type?

Anyway, it seems CERTAIN niche' groups tend to desire those who partake in their specific hobbies and would prefer not to date someone that isn't into this kind of thing.

Like I saw one woman who has a main cover photo on FB with her and her friends in a semi-circle with JEEPS, headlights on. So it would seems really into muddlin' in her Jeep.

Granted she doesn't consider herself a redneck, as "Muddin" is a typical redneck hobby, but she's pretty hot and stays in shape for a 40-something, but they seem to express that she'd like to meet someone with the same Harley D. / JEEP hobby (or lifestyle?)

Same thing with horses...there just seems to be certain hobbies that would allow for people to only date those with those hobbies (lifestyles)?

I personally couldn't relate to someone as I have interests that not many women are interseted in like geeky stuff and sci-fi.

But I've known couples to have completely polar interests to get along well, yes?

Just discovered there's a "Jeeps Freak" dating site, too. lol But isn't that TOO specific of an interest to be priority in dating?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Jeeps and Harleys are both popular in my red neck of the woods. The Harley guys tend to be very alpha or alpha like and the women eat it up.
 

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Jeeps and Harleys are both popular in my red neck of the woods. The Harley guys tend to be very alpha or alpha like and the women eat it up.
Yeah, typically with DUI and assualt reccords and spending the night in the drunk tank. lol
 

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There are many factors that play into dating that are not just shared interest. Some of those are:

  • How attractive you are
  • Your social status/class
  • Shared interests
  • Proximity
  • Shared social groups
  • Cultral barriers
People typically choose partners based on a major combination of these things.
 
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