Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
sure everyone gets flaked on. but despite the flakes, everyone also gets some action. not to sound too down or depressed, 'cause im more than ready to be optimistic. i just don't kno wats up though. wat im i doin wrong?SamTheHobit said:
DUDE, I"M IN THE EXACT SAME SITUATION AND ABOUT TO QUIT TOOOOOO. Except, I can get girls in my room lol. Like they'll be all over me when I meet them, but after I get their number it goes south from there.talented_beginner said:
don't kno wat else to do anymore at this point, but quit. i get #'s but they don't amount to anything. i've only gotten one make out and that's it. haven't even gotten a chick into the room etc., i'm really upset at this point. what im i doin wrong?
i suspect it's the textn. i get a # then after that i can't take it anywhere.
help?
this.Ringleader41 said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
sounds good. not gonna quit after all. givin this another shot! :box:D.J. King Allister said:
Glad I could be of help.talented_beginner said: