Life's a B1tch

[Vending Machine Veteran]

I believe humans place far too much expectation on relationships

They have a shelf life just like everything else on earth , you can't expect to be with someone over a period of 5,10,20,30,40 years and there not to be issues

I'm not sure I've ever come across a relationship between a man and a woman that doesn't have some sort of core issue bubbling under the surface it's almost like they need it too keep going.

Even the most "fairytale" relationship I've come across the guy absolutely hates his partners mother , and this causes drama in the relationship pretty much on a weekly basis

Another problem is that humans get bored and tempted very easily ....I don't care who you are you've been in a relationship for 3 years + the sexual desire is going to start waining for both man and woman

"cheating" is rife out there ......fundamentally men desire the feeling of the hunt and women desire the feeling of being hunted

You can't really get either of them core desires fulfilled from a long term relationship / marriage because theres nothing to hunt

Why do you think people get fat and out of shape in relationships !?! .......becuase of comfort and there literally being fvck all else to do lol

Always makes me chuckle when people say things like " I can't believe they would do that "

Anyone is capable of anything under the right circumstances .....

Great post

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

I got rid of most of the things I owned when we moved in together. I didn't care much about the stuff

Currently, our house and garage is full of her crap. Pisses me off now...

I just got an offer to work out of town indefinitely. I'm tempted to take it, to get away from her, at least.

But I'm also leaving my home wide open for her to do whatever.

Fvck. You think you know, but you don't know

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

The stoic philosophers, who I love, didn't touch on this subject

I'm about to go through hell. Wish me luck.

 

[BaronOfHair]

The stoic philosophers, who I love, didn't touch on this subject

I'm about to go through hell. Wish me luck.

On the contrary. They'd point out that you chose to increase your own distress, by thinking in melodramatic terms, like "I'm about to go through hell", even though you have the power to instead think in saner, less hyperbolic ones such as:

"Tommorw, I COULD potentially encounter obstacles to my goals, and events I'd prefer not to encounter. I also can choose to take a cue from Tommy Shelby here

, by handling my difficulties as if I have ice water in my veins. Possessing nerves of steel is an archetypal masculine trait, thus any difficulties I encounter provide me with an opportunity to sharpen my proficiency in that department"

 

[BaronOfHair]

I got rid of most of the things I owned when we moved in together. I didn't care much about the stuff

Was that really the case? Or did you kowtow to her, by getting rid of most of your possessions to make room for those of this broad, for fear that she'd leave you?

"Currently, our house and garage is full of her crap. Pisses me off now..."

I presume neither she, nor a couple of Hell's Angels whom she had under contract put a loaded L1A1 SLR to your head, nor a Bowie knife to your neck then threatened to deprive you of a pulse, UNLESS you allowed her to fill up your house and garage with "her crap". Get pissed off at yourself, for allowing things to get this far out of hand

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Was that really the case? Or did you kowtow to her, by getting rid of most of your possessions to make room for those of this broad, for fear that she'd leave you?

"Currently, our house and garage is full of her crap. Pisses me off now..."

I presume neither she, nor a couple of Hell's Angels whom she had under contract put a loaded L1A1 SLR to your head, nor a Bowie knife to your neck then threatened to deprive you of a pulse, UNLESS you allowed her to fill up your house and garage with "her crap". Get pissed off at yourself, for allowing things to get this far out of hand

No, I don't care about furniture

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

On the contrary. They'd point out that you chose to increase your own distress, by thinking in melodramatic terms, like "I'm about to go through hell", even though you have the power to instead think in saner, less hyperbolic ones such as:

"Tommorw, I COULD potentially encounter obstacles to my goals, and events I'd prefer not to encounter. I also can choose to take a cue from Tommy Shelby here

, by handling my difficulties as if I have ice water in my veins. Possessing nerves of steel is an archetypal masculine trait, thus any difficulties I encounter provide me with an opportunity to sharpen my proficiency in that department"

Yeah, well, I wanted kids.

I was ready for the incoming storm of drama.

It got a lot worse than I expected.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

On the contrary. They'd point out that you chose to increase your own distress, by thinking in melodramatic terms, like "I'm about to go through hell", even though you have the power to instead think in saner, less hyperbolic ones such as:

"Tommorw, I COULD potentially encounter obstacles to my goals, and events I'd prefer not to encounter. I also can choose to take a cue from Tommy Shelby here

, by handling my difficulties as if I have ice water in my veins. Possessing nerves of steel is an archetypal masculine trait, thus any difficulties I encounter provide me with an opportunity to sharpen my proficiency in that department"

I'm an old guy. I could clam up and protect myself from every danger

But where's the fun in that?

 

[BaronOfHair]

Yeah, well, I wanted kids

Have you been gelded, VMV? Because otherwise, not being a woman, you don't have menopause to worry about and thus still have ample opportunity to achieve this goal. You just may have to contend with folks regularly assuming that you're son or daughter is your grandchild

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

You always need to challenge yourself.

Life gets boring

I used to cold-approach to get the feels, not so much anymore

There isn't much that exhilarates me these days

I mostly fight apathy lately, which is a good fight. And I will win

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Have you been gelded, VMV? Because otherwise, not being a woman, you don't have menopause to worry about and thus still have ample opportunity to achieve this goal. You just may have to contend with folks regularly assuming that you're son or daughter is your grandchild

Tell me how I should achieve my goals

 

[BaronOfHair]

I mostly fight apathy lately, which is a good fight. And I will win

Just remember: You don't need to fight, to prove you're right. You don't need to be forgiven... Yeah, Yeah, Yeah

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Just remember: You don't need to fight, to prove you're right. You don't need to be forgiven... Yeah, Yeah, Yeah

Every moment is a fight now.

My baseline blood pressure is through the roof.

I miss being single, but being single wasn't all that great either.

That's the irony, young bucks

 

[BaronOfHair]

Tell me how I should achieve my goals

Deciding whether or not you really want to remain with this chick, or you're staying around for fear of venturing into the unknown, may be a fine place to start

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Deciding whether or not you really want to remain with this chick, or you're staying around for fear of venturing into the unknown, may be a fine place to start

You think fear is what's holding me back?

 

[BaronOfHair]

I miss being single, but being single wasn't all that great either.

We've apparently read two different brands of Stoicism. The philosophers I'm familiar would point out that how awful or blissful being single is is dicated by our thoughts and beliefs about singledom

 

[BaronOfHair]

You think fear is what's holding me back?

I suspect it's possible, yeah... Just as strongly as I suspect that Sydney Sweeney's rise to stardom isn't just attributable to her beauty and talent, but also her willingness to get naked in every other scene on Euphoria

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

We've apparently read two different brands of Stoicism. The philosophers I'm familiar would point out that how awful or blissful being single is is dicated by our thoughts and beliefs about singledom

When I'm in a relationship, I'm unhappy, but I'm also unhappy when I'm single

I thought I made it pretty obvious.

It's called destination happiness

Thanks, though

 

[BaronOfHair]

When I'm in a relationship, I'm unhappy, but I'm also unhappy when I'm single

Well, f-ck me, we're getting trolled by Shirley Manson

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Give zero fvcks

That's how you win