Life's a B1tch

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Maybe this thread can help someone.

I dated this woman 20 years ago. Pretty girl. Smart, whoop your ass at jeopardy type

We got back together. Been a passionate time. She's always been into me. There were never any signs. She didn't start acting distant or grouchy, the things you would typically notice

Everything was keen bean on her end. Except that she was texting another dude.

No warning signs at all. She was using me for sex and a kid , which isn't how you typically view a cheater lol

I waited until I found out she wasn't pregnant, then I dropped the hammer. It's been weird ever since

She thinks she didn't do anything wrong, I think I can't trust her ever again.

She lives with me, so that makes it interesting. Constantly having to remind someone why they should hate you.

Gonna be fun, boys

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

They're not, but you're dating low quality women.

This situation is a good warning not to have kids with low quality women.

Find yourself a high quality woman.

Lol they start disappearing as you reach my age, bub

 

[kzar_kzar]

I expect every woman to not understand honor and integrity

I gambled. Saw some red flags, but ignored them. I'm getting old and want kids

If you don’t mind me asking , how old are you ?!
I also want kids but I’m in my early 30s.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

They're not, but you're dating low quality women.

This situation is a good warning not to have kids with low quality women.

Find yourself a high quality woman.

We had a history, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Bad idea. People don't change. Women least of all.

We had a kid last year, but he only lived 5 days. I haven't mentioned that yet. I'm a stoic motherfvcker, but some things hurt you

That's what makes this betrayal so bad. And she didn't fvck, just text him bad things about me, and eventually start talking about fvcking

Still hurts somewhere inside me

I don't have much left to hurt

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

If you don’t mind me asking , how old are you ?!
I also want kids but I’m in my early 30s.

I'll be 40 in 2 months.

I had a history with this woman already, and she seemed like the one at the time, but women will act any way they need to when they run out of time. She's 37

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

If you don’t mind me asking , how old are you ?!
I also want kids but I’m in my early 30s.

I'm trying to drop her, but it's a difficult process. I still want kids and will find a younger woman for it

I still love her. I feel bad for her honestly. I feel bad she isn't with a b1tch of a dude that could swallow this and get her pregnant.

Life's a b1tch sometimes. You'll see as you get older

@AmsterdamAssassin maybe you'll see one day too. Boomers had it so easy

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Oh yeah, we've been trying to get her pregnant for the past 2 months lol. She was texting him during this time

Talk about hurt lol

If I can even experience it anymore

It's more apathy now

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

I fight apathy every day. I reckon it makes me stronger.

I debated sharing this on here, but I figured it might help someone.

Everything ain't black and white.

Honestly, it never has been when it came to women. You have to live it and figure your own sh1t out

That's what I tell me nephew

I also tell him not to trust women

 

[Gamisch]

I keep trying to kick her out, but she doubles down with kindness. She knows her options are slim, so she's using her feminine wiles.

You're a idiot.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

That's not how it works. You hope you won't get hit by a drunk driver. You hope you don't get maimed/killed walking down the street or while sitting at your desk. You don't hope a hoe turns into a housewife. You know it doesn't happen and therefore you don't get involved with her.

And getting involved with a woman with red flags is the way to get kids?
Perhaps paying child support and only seeing them a few hours during the weekend is your idea of having kids.

I may have been too sarcastic earlier.

It's a fvcking gamble every time you deal with women, young buck

You may think you have it all figured out, but they've been figuring out since they were 12.

You may think everything is cordial, but they can change their mind on a dime.

Women are fickle

Remember that, young buck

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

You're a idiot.

"An" idiot

Yes, thank you

You got any better?

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

You're a idiot.

I'm definitely an idiot. I never denied that.

I'll also blast you out of the water on woman knowledge.

30 years in the game, I reckon

What you got, boy

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

You get old in the game, sh1t gets boring. Life gets boring.

You know the risks, but fvck it. Why not?

You gonna sit around and do your hobbies for the rest of your life? Good luck.

They're probably gay ass hobbies anyway, unless you're hunting or fishing

You gonna play video games until you're 60?

Say you're paragliding, or something interesting. You gonna paraglide until you're 60?

How gay is that?

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

"The true man wants two things: danger and play. For that reason he wants woman, as the most dangerous plaything."

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

If you ain't risking it all, you ain't living.

Sack up, boy. Have some fun

 

[Travel memoir21]

Have you thought about going overseas? There's lots of traditonal minded women out there who would welcome a western man like you with open arms.

Take it from me, I'm here in The Philippines right now and my Tinder started blowing up when I got here.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I'm trying to be empathetic, especially given the erratic posts and bravado persona. I’m truly sorry for your loss after such a brief time. I can only imagine how challenging it must be, and the strain from unsuccessful pregnancies can certainly affect a relationship.

To navigate this difficult time, it's important to find a balance between your emotions and rational thinking. I suggest to take a step back, both physically and emotionally from all of this stress in order to gain a clearer and more neutral perspective on the situation. You need to question her motivations and outcomes while remaining open to new ideas. This way you will not only take her behaviour at face value but also avoid doing something irrational that will cause more harm than good; stay away from the red pill group bias this moment and think about your long term goals and how to action them. The longer you resist reacting, the more time you have to reflect in all of this. Self-assess everything with time.

I can tell you from experience that she may want to fight through tooth and nail to keep you around and keep the relationship going. She may create drama, involve your family, do nice things for you, or rationalize how insignificant her actions were. All I can say is that you have all the leverage in the relationship to end it if you do not want to continue this journey with her. Most people don’t get this chance.

Good luck.

 

[Ricky]

We had a history, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Bad idea. People don't change. Women least of all.

We had a kid last year, but he only lived 5 days. I haven't mentioned that yet. I'm a stoic motherfvcker, but some things hurt you

That's what makes this betrayal so bad. And she didn't fvck, just text him bad things about me, and eventually start talking about fvcking

Still hurts somewhere inside me

I don't have much left to hurt

Damn i am sorry about losing your child.

BTW everyone always tries to pile on posters who ask for honest help or feedback on here. Its stupid. I guess since i have a high IQ (advanced degrees in engineering and physics) and am presumably more intelligent than most of the posters here , i can help out a little bit more.

The original poster didn't see red flags, in fact his girlfriend may have been lacking them or quite good at hiding them, so the repetitive posts about that aren't helpful.

He is looking for actionable advice here. Maybe some of you have been through similar things. I know i have.

A clear fact of social psychology is that women tend to be slightly more impulsive than men in many ways. Thats why sales and marketings specialists target them to make purchases now. They tend to be more willing to be influenced to by things in sales etc.

Unfortunately while in prior years dating and romance was more regulated (a woman would be limited to the men that actively approached her in person or those that lived in her area), now the smartphone has created an unregulated market where attention is available easily and any and all old romantic encounters can contact her. So at the first sign of relationship difficulty, you have to deal with an outside influence trying to mate poach.

This situation is extremely common. Of course Occams razor and simplicity says to next, but if any of you other keyboard jockeys want to become great seducers, i think we can find ways too outclass a simp from her past and help the original poster.

1) Keep calm.. all the laws favor women.. even yelling at a woman can get you a DV conviction
2) Keep working on yourself in all ways. A masculine man will almost always outperform a simp
3) You have the home field advantage. She is in your house still
4) Flirt with other women.. as one redpill influencer says sometimes your stay game is the same as your go game. Be ready to replace her if needed. Look and feel your best at all time. Stay confident... this situation is becoming all too common the only reason some of the other posters s^*t on you is that they haven't ran into it because they haven't been living with a woman or in a relationship.

We have to start being helpful to posters..

 

[Ricky]

We had a history, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Bad idea. People don't change. Women least of all.

We had a kid last year, but he only lived 5 days. I haven't mentioned that yet. I'm a stoic motherfvcker, but some things hurt you

That's what makes this betrayal so bad. And she didn't fvck, just text him bad things about me, and eventually start talking about fvcking

Still hurts somewhere inside me

I don't have much left to hurt

You both are probably dealing with a lot of trauma from the lost child. I'm not sure the best way to handle that but i feel pretty certain its affected both of your emotions and i feel bad that you've had to go through that together.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Pick one. I'm sure those women from Tinder are very traditional.

Are men in the world this gullible?

You can use me as proof of that, I reckon