"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Lifeforce Weightlifting Journal
- Thread starter Lifeforce
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Deadlift 5x115 kg
Deadlift 4x115 kg
Rows 5x65 kg overhand (strict)
Rows 3x65 kg
Rows 6x65 kg underhand
Good Mornings 8x85 kg (strict)
Good Mornings 4x85 kg
Leg raises attached to machine ??x15 kg
Leg raises attached to machine (15 breath pause) 5x15 kg
Leg raises attached to machine ??x15 kg
Chin ups 9xBW (very strict!)
Chin ups 3xbw
Chin ups 6or7xbw (not so strict)
10 minutes stretch
Weight around 76 (on creatine since three days)
It seems my strictness is paying off, the deadlifts flew up, but I was too fatiqued from the heat and minimal oxygen supply to lift any good.
chin ups look very good for strict form man i do the chinups with pretty crappy form but it has given me pretty good results so why change it
Well I try to do the corrext motion foremost. When bench pressing I go down to my chest, pause so the bar is still and then return it. When I chin-up I go down 100% and don't sway forward and try to use my lats and bis only. I guess as long as you see results it's all good, but I've stopped getting good results. :/
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
(tried some warm up for the squat but I was sour in my lower back so I didn't want to risk injuring myself with a bad stabilizer)
Bench Presses 5x65 kg
Bench Presses 4x65 kg
Bench Presses 2x70 kg
Bench Presses (negatives) 3x75 kg
Damn, I hope I can make a strict 8x65 next time.
Static hold 15x60 kg
Static hold 10x100 kg
Static hold 10x140 kg
Static hold 10x165 kg
Static hold 4x185 kg
(pretty hard to hold with sweaty palms, it's the hottest summer ever in sweden!)
Next time will be some serious squatting.
btw you aint doing olympic lifting anymore?
Squats 6x105 kg New record
Squats 5x105 kg
Squats 4x105 kg
Almost ATTG all the times, no pause
Speed SLDLs 3x55 kg
Speed SLDLs 3x55 kg
Speed SLDLs 3x55 kg
Speed SLDLs 3x55 kg
Speed SLDLs 3x55 kg
(I'll do real ones next time)
Standing calves raises 10x110 kg New record
Standing calves raises 6x110 kg (15 breath pause)
Standing calves raises 10x110 kg
(increase to 115 next time)
END:
Deadlifts 8x115 kg New record
Deadlifts 6x120 kg New record
Deadlifts 3x125 kg New record
Deadlifts 8x105 kg
Somehow I hurt my back doing the last set, I kept very good form throughout, I think it had to do with too little warm up or something)
Close grip bench 8x60 kg New record
Close grip bench 6x65 kg New recordf
Close grip bench 3+1assistx70 kg New record
Chin ups 8
Chin ups 3
Chin ups 6
Couldn't do rows or good mornings because of my back
End:
Bench press 7x65 kg (wide grip) New record
Bench press 4x65 kg (wide grip)
Bench press 3x70 kg (wide grip) New record
Bench press 3x80 kg (negatives) New record
Bench press incline with db 8x26.4 New record
Bench press incline with db 5x26.4
Military presses 4x45 kg
Push presses 8x55 kg New record
Push presses 6x55 kg
Biceps curls 5x40 kg (wider grip) New record
Biceps curls 8x50 kg (negatives) New record
Biceps curls 6x50 kg (negatives)
Some wrist curls
end:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
i can understand your a bit frustrated when your upper body lifts dont get better...i cant really understand why it is....i would recommend you to follow my GREAT back routine......1xdeadlifts and 2xweighted chinups per week...nothing else....your potential in the chinups must be big....you really need to get them up man it have to be possible!!
your calves look like my quads
I think I look skinny in my side chest because my legs dwarf my upper body. My arms are 35.5 cm flexed (+1.5 cm in just a few weeks). My chest is over 1 m so I'm not considered small at all IMO. My quads are 58.5 cm and my calves 41 cm. So there's an unbalance. My arms should be as big as my calves if I had more symmetry.
currently I'm at 76 kg.
dude the only reason my chin-ups were that weak was because I had to keep perfect form not to get pain in my lower back. =) Your program sounds good, but I don't think my back is a problem for me. It's my chest and if the mirror tells me right, it's heading in the right direction.
haha.. thanks man... i've been hitting the calves like a maniac. I've never had my calves so big as they are now. Previous record was 40.5 cm I think at 80 kg.
having some problems paying attention sometimes ya know oooright, my calves are same size as my arms and i never trained them and my squat is low. and im hitting my arms very hard!! i have heard the calves=arms theory, too. but i doubt its accurate.....most people seem to have bigger calves than arms EXCEPT beachlifters.Thanks semag... you've been getting up some serious weights.. that 195x20 is not a bad 20 reper. You'll squash my 220x17 record soon. :/ Not talking about the incline dblifts. just insane.
Edit: Come to think about it, didn't see your 20x195 was ATTG. respect.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
3 sets is definatly enough I only do 3 sets and I've discovered a great technique to use (thanks to semag)
Do 1 set 6-10 reps with full range of motion
Wait 15 breaths and then do as many as you can.
Wait 2 minutes and press out as many as you can.
Really blasts them to hell. I've grown over 1-2 cm in the last month, I'm pretty happy about that. =)
Bench press 6x67.5 kg (wide grip) new record
Bench press 6x70 kg (semi wide) new record
Bench press 3x72.5 kg (semi wide) new record
Bench press incline db 6x26.4
Bench press incline db 4x26.4
Bench press incline db 6x21.4
Had no spotter, I'm sure I could have pushed out a few more reps altogether
(warm up)
Bent over rows 8x20 kg
Bent over rows 5x40 kg
Bent over rows 3x60 kg
Bent over rows 6x70 kg aborted set new record anyway
I thought my back was all healed, but I felt a little from the injury so I decided to stop the set and wait for it to heal.
Biceps curls 4x40 kg
Biceps curls 4x50 kg (negatives)
(I think I was tired after the bent over rows and heaving dbs for bench press)
db rows 4x40 kg ??? record
db rows 6x31.4 kg
Farmer's walk 51.4 kgx1 lap new record
Stone carry 90 kgx1 lap
Stone carry 90 kgx1 lap
**** I hate when people stare at me while I work out. Especially the stone carrys are very popular it seems. They are a good basic exercise though.
btw... I accidently cought my leg between two plates... it hurted like hell! =D
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.