"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Life - your purpose in it.

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Your purpose in life?

To know it's not illusive because purpose is hard to find.
It isn't.
It's illusive because purpose is meaning that in order to get there, you will have to push yourself to the limits of your abilities, to that moment where you simply and quietly know - ok, that's as good as I can do.

That's really all there is to it. If one is caught in the modern man's trap of existential pointlessness, as far as I can see there's really only one way out. Dream big, and do better. You have galactic karmic permission to have the audacity to take on whatever you need to do to find your purpose in existence.

If you don't have the backbone to start, well, to yourself and to the rest of us as well, obviously got no purpose. If you've tried and got nowhere, you'll need to try again and do a better job. Maybe you'll never succeed, and you know this. Maybe the heroism of seeking purpose anyway while knowing you'll never find it is what create purpose in your existence.

Right now, we as a culture really need people who will take up that heroic task of trying to find purpose in a world where it's going to be pretty difficult to find. We need to take this task on seriously and with integrity. Some might suggest a lot easier for romantics like myself to dabble with big archetypes such to create a meaningful existence than it might hacking out a subsistence life eating millet in some poor village somewhere in the 3rd world. As such, in the future of scarcity we face some might suggest I'm a bit out of touch.
Maybe, maybe not.

Actually, I think not. It all depends on how one looks at the task at hand. Again, the key to a meaningful existence is simply doing what you do in a sincere manner and to the best of your ability--which will often need to mean with such success and excessive bounty that it has a measurable positive effect in one's environment and community.

In other words, it may prove most important to the survival of mankind that there remain a critical mass of those who, heroically, deliberately, get out of bed in the morning and go about their business cheerfully - in spite of the future we may soon face.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If one is caught in the modern man's trap of existential pointlessness, as far as I can see there's really only one way out.
Well, first off, there is no "way out" unless you mean dying. Because there is no inherent "purpose" in life. Look up and understand the existential phrase "Existence precedes essence." This may take you a year or so to fully comprehend.

If you want to make up some "purpose" in your life then fine, go for it. Just don't be a fascist about it. Hitler had a "purpose" too.

Me, I'm just fine without having a purpose.
 

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Zarky said:
Well, first off, there is no "way out" unless you mean dying. Because there is no inherent "purpose" in life. Look up and understand the existential phrase "Existence precedes essence." This may take you a year or so to fully comprehend.

If you want to make up some "purpose" in your life then fine, go for it. Just don't be a fascist about it. Hitler had a "purpose" too.

Me, I'm just fine without having a purpose.
The purpose of life - is to have a life of purpose.

Yes Hitler had a purpose - a destructive one, but a purpose nonetheless. I don't mention anything about having a moral code.

A serial killer has a purpose (which in effect is what Hitler was by the way).

If one is logical about it, the choice to exist is inherently irrational.
I give the inherently irrationaitly of life a purpose - by creating a purpose.
And don't worry - its not fascism.
 

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Zunder said:
The purpose of life - is to have a life of purpose.
Hey, whatever makes your monkey jump. But if that's your "purpose" then you will spend the rest of your life searching for a purpose. So be careful about the purpose(s) you choose for yourself.

OR you could just dispense with all the "purpose" stuff and try to enjoy wherever the river takes you.
 

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Zarky said:
Hey, whatever makes your monkey jump. But if that's your "purpose" then you will spend the rest of your life searching for a purpose. So be careful about the purpose(s) you choose for yourself.

OR you could just dispense with all the "purpose" stuff and try to enjoy wherever the river takes you.
Yes mate just enjoy it huh. "Be yourself" too, just let "the river of life" lead you wherever it goes, like the ball on a roulette wheel, its all chance it just happens you have no control, no "purpose", you just let it all happen.

Ok bro - you enjoy your "river of life". Good for you.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Actually Zarky - why are you even on this forum if you have no purpose?

Fact is you don't really grasp what I am getting at.
 
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I think the purpose of life is to pursue an ideal. I like the Tao philosophy quite a bit.

It works for me.


fwiw..peace
 

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Zunder said:
Actually Zarky - why are you even on this forum if you have no purpose?

Fact is you don't really grasp what I am getting at.
Well, glad you cleared that up for us. I like talking about social dynamics and the mating market. That's why I'm on this forum, and others. I'm also on watch forums because I like wrist watches, and diving forums because I enjoy diving. Not sure what that has to do with anything though.

Just because I don't have "a Purpose" doesn't mean I don't have interests. Might as well enjoy stuff before I kick the chicken.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dear Zunder,
"Gather ye rosebuds while ye may"Life is just a big juicy apple,while you have vigour and an active Libido,just enjoy,don't waste time philosophising.
 
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