logicallefty
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As of the past several months, I have been going through yet another transformation in how I conduct my daily life. This includes work, women, family, dealing with my ex baby mama, etc., etc., etc. I have reached that point in life where I genuinely and confidently can step away from those things of which I have little or no control. People are used to me engaging in all of the problems, fighting for causes of which I have 1% or 0% chance of winning, being the leader in things that benefit other people and benefit me little or not at all. I find that the more I step further away, the more others want me to step closer.
- My daughter has switched schools multiple times between my district and her mother's. Last time she came to mine I put up a big fight advocating for her to come to to mine. Now she is back at her mom's but wants to come back to mine again because he mom moved and is in a worst district than before. I have stepped back and told my daughter, her mother, and her step dad that I'm not going to fight this one and I am fine with whatever happens. Her dip sh|t step dad says that I should CARE more about it and am not taking the issue seriously (because I am not arguing with HIM about it like I did before, I am going my own way and genuinely don't care, and he wants the argument that he is not getting this time).
- At work in meetings you can't speak for more than about 15 seconds before someone interrupts you. Its so common that it has become a joke, but I see no humor in it. Especially on days like today when I had so many things going on at once. My boss wanted to have an impromptu meeting about stuff we have discussed before and all we have done is discuss it, and no action is ever taken. I came to the meeting. But before it started I said "I have a lot of stuff going on. If I get interrupted 2x in this meeting, I am walking out".. The guy who normally interrupts most of all said "you can't do that!!".. I said "wanna watch me? You better let me talk when its my turn then" My boss said "Oh believe me, he will leave, he has done it before".. Low and behold, the meeting went great and I didn't get interrupted..
I really feel a new sense of peace as of late. I feel like I can pick my battles and arguments a lot better than ever before. And think its funny how people act when I am not engaged in the same old BS that I would have been engaged in before.. In short, I guess i am becoming more selfish, and I like it a lot.
- My daughter has switched schools multiple times between my district and her mother's. Last time she came to mine I put up a big fight advocating for her to come to to mine. Now she is back at her mom's but wants to come back to mine again because he mom moved and is in a worst district than before. I have stepped back and told my daughter, her mother, and her step dad that I'm not going to fight this one and I am fine with whatever happens. Her dip sh|t step dad says that I should CARE more about it and am not taking the issue seriously (because I am not arguing with HIM about it like I did before, I am going my own way and genuinely don't care, and he wants the argument that he is not getting this time).
- At work in meetings you can't speak for more than about 15 seconds before someone interrupts you. Its so common that it has become a joke, but I see no humor in it. Especially on days like today when I had so many things going on at once. My boss wanted to have an impromptu meeting about stuff we have discussed before and all we have done is discuss it, and no action is ever taken. I came to the meeting. But before it started I said "I have a lot of stuff going on. If I get interrupted 2x in this meeting, I am walking out".. The guy who normally interrupts most of all said "you can't do that!!".. I said "wanna watch me? You better let me talk when its my turn then" My boss said "Oh believe me, he will leave, he has done it before".. Low and behold, the meeting went great and I didn't get interrupted..
I really feel a new sense of peace as of late. I feel like I can pick my battles and arguments a lot better than ever before. And think its funny how people act when I am not engaged in the same old BS that I would have been engaged in before.. In short, I guess i am becoming more selfish, and I like it a lot.