"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Life Is An Adventure!

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Life Is An Adventure! (FR's and LR's)

All right, I'm starting up a journal of some of my "adventures" here. I'll also post up some goals, and holding myself to them.

I was posting as elvis but that username is so trite, I had to ditch it.

Labor Day Weekend:

I went to two parties this weekend consecutively on the same night. In retrospect, I should've stayed at the first, even though the girls were not especially hot, since they were so receptive.

Party #1:

I show up around 8:30, and my buddy, the only person I know except from the host, is late, so I work the room a bit, not feeling completely comfortable. There are lots of cougars and milf's and the atmosphere is mellow and very friendly.

I join a group of several guys and 1 girl, just to be in with any group. I'm wondering if I should leave immediately as there don't seem to be very many attractive women in the room.

(Hot Asian Girl)
As I turn around looking for my friend, I see a woman standing right in front of me. She is just staring, with an almost doe in the headlights look in her eyes. I just stare at her for the longest, wondering what she wants. She walks past saying she is getting a drink.

She gets a drink, then I see her again, facing me and staring away. I finally smile and she says hi, looking very relieved. We chit chat for a bit, she is very nervous. Her eyes are darting about left and right, and her feet are shuffling in all sorts of random directions.

We chit chat and I ask her what she likes to do for fun. She says she likes to play tennis. I tell her tennis is my favorite sport. She stares with disapproval, fearing that I am lying to her. She says abruptly that she has to go find her friend. It's a pity that people assume others are lying. Sometimes they're telling the truth. :)

My buddy shows up. Bro-mance hi fives and dude where you been?!?

(Asian cougar)
The prospects are not that enticing. I ask him if he sees anything good. He points to an Asian cougar who has seated herself besides me at the bar. I open her, and she is receptive although a bit shy. "I look like someone you know? I hope it's a good person," she says.

I pull my friend in, but she immediately counters by pulling HER girlfriend in, to even the ratio. Everyone in the group accuses me of being a player, and the two girls volunteer to be my "wing girls" for the night.

My bud says: "dude! they just met you and they're volunteering to get women for you!"

We all go dancing at the big club right next door (two stories). At this point, I know I have a guaranteed lay, but I also have another party to go to, which potentially has hotter chicks.

I tell them that I'm scheduled to be another party, and the girl I approached tells me not to go. She says she knows some of the people, and they are snooty and superficial (meaning younger and hotter).

I decide to stick around for a while, but really curious about the second party. On the dance floor, the Asian girl is looking quite hot. She has taken off her sweater and showing off her body. The 20 something douchebags are taking notice and drooling.

Loads of lonely guys eye (dance floor vultures) us jealously, looking angry and sad. I am having a great time. But my curiosity is getting the better of me, so I say my goodbyes. Everyone in my group is looking pissed....
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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So I dash off to the second party, and realize right away, I should not have left the first one lol. There's just no point in starting over again if you're already on a roll....

There are quite a few pretty girls here, but the ratio is quite bad. 3 or 4 guys talking to every girl, no exceptions. Most in attendance are already acquainted, so it's too much drama to try to isolate.

The guys are ****blocking and desperately competing, pretty much guaranteeing failure for everyone. I try to befriend everyone, guys and gals alike. Once I get some momentum going, more guys run in to ****block, it was terrible.

Lots of young girls, heavy shields, desperate guys ****blocking, pretty pathetic scene. It's also heavily cliqueish, with people not wanting to talk to one another without an introduction or prior acquaintance.

The only girl who made an effort to me was a tall, thin, very pretty blonde, who grabbed me gently by the arm. I was so intent on trying to scramble for the other girl's attention, I barely noticed her.

Anyway, two very pretty girls did approach me tonight so I certainly had my chances. The best bet was a cougar chick who I should've stayed with to begin with.



Your feedback welcome for this journal.
 

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nice to see you had a good weekend

one thing i cant stand is like how you said 3 or 4 guys talking to girls, i hate seeing that. when i see that i usually dont bother talking to any girls unless they talk to me first. i usually spend those kind of nights kicking it my bros playing beerpong or such


i never get why these desperate ass dudes do this, all it does is make the girls ego's go way up making them think their hotter than they really are thus giving them a stronger rejection shield...err desperate guys these days..
 

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One of my so-called "friends" just sold out all of his male friends on-line. He starts up a discussion stating that he was laughing at the guys at the party he was at.

It's a none too subtle attempt to curry favor with the ladies by portraying himself as mr. cool while taking value from the other guys he personally invited as being socially awkward. Never mind that this guy is a backstabbing prick, snake in the grass.

The takeaway is that this idiot doesn't realize he's taking away his own value as well in the process...

edit: I just re-read his comments: he insinuates that the guys he meets are potential or actual rapists at worst, or are guys who are desperate with low self esteem at best.
 

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life is an adventunre

I agree with your statement that life is an adventure, we daily find something new in our life sometimes it is expected or sometime it is not,well your post having worth-full content for reading.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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