Life in the 20's and beyond.

Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

theapprentice

Don Juan

Aug 19, 2006

Hell

I dont think I need to worry about the future if i decide that everyday I live Im going to make it an adventure or do something that makes me happy, since today is yesterdays future.

Its just that trying to live the day as best as you can, can get to be difficult especially if you want something but your not capable of doing it.

For example talking to women, I feel like if I can learn to make friends and talk to women that my sadness will go away.

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.