Life changing decision/big mistake

[oakraiderz2]

On weds i was suppose to move to fl with some friends, but i decided no to go because i had a bad feeling about the situation. At the time we were going to leave we didnt have and apartment, but later that day they got approved for it. When i decided not to go i wanted to take sometime to make sure it was something that i want to do. So its been a few days and ive made up my mind about wanted to go but my parents dont thik i should. My mom supported the idea kidna, but my dad just wants me to go to school, get a degree then go where ever i want. I was planning on going to school in fl, but he keeps saying to go to school. It kinda pisses me off because i wanted to take time and think about my decision, which i did. But now it seems like because i wanted to think about it that im being punished for it. I want to go but i just dont know what else to say. Im a rahter crafty kid when it comes to getting my way with my parents. So what should i do or what would you all do??

 

[Julian]

your 19 and old enough to make your own decisions.

your parents obviously want the best for you and want to keep you near.

You said yourself you had a bad feeling about florida, decide wether that feeling was from being fearful of the unknown or was actually because you felt that it was a bad decision to make. Once you decide that you can move forward with whatever it is you decide to do.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by Julian
your 19 and old enough to make your own decisions.

Youre right but the only thing is that i wouldnt be going to school and id have to pay for car insurance, health insurance and all of that stuff if i decided to go against their will. I feel that i have decided that its what i want to do but i think my dad doesnt want me to go cause i wanted to think about it. He INSIST to just go to school. Maybe ill do it all on my own.

 

[Julian]

also remember dont be a follower, dont go just because your friends are. do whats best for you.

honestly i think that sticking around and going to school and getting your sh1t financially stable would be a better idea, THEN move wherever you want to go. Florida aint going anywhere.

 

[Create Reality]

Just be ready for the hardships you will face. Lots of people bug out when on their own for the first time, they've left their support network, family, friends, behind.

 

[ghostin]

stay home and go to school. Ur only 19.

 

[Nocturnal]

One way to help you figure things out would be to make a simple chart with two colums; one column listing the benefits of going, and one listing the benefits of staying. For example:

Going
-------
Like the environment/atmosphere more
Will be with close friends
.
.
.


Staying
---------
School
Financial security
.
.
.


You get the idea. You are the only one who can see the situation for what it is, so you are the best person to judge whether to go or whether to stay.

 

[italostud]

You're 19? You're just a stupid kid. Listen to your parents. You have free room&board. Take advantage, get an education, or you'll regret it in the future.