"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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life can be cruel - the hot ugly chic

joekerr31

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ok, so the other day im out shopping.

one of the girls working had a 10 out of 10 face. i mean, DROP dead gorgeous.

BUT her mid section was fuh fuh fuh fuh fuhcked! it was the wierdest thing. she wasn't fat, but had a soft ugly upside down muffin roll of fat around her midsection. the rest of her body was totally normal though - wierdest fuhking thing i've seen in a long time.

best i can figure she must of at some point been very overweight and then lost a ton of it. her arms, legs, face, butt were all normal size, but her mid section was just fuh-hucked! the fat wasn't hard, it was soft and droopy like.

gotta feel bad for someone like that who would be killer drop dead gorgeous if not for that one major problem.

life can be cruel.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yeah sad ! She has two choices - Go lose that roll in the gym ,sweat, work hard....or do what most women would do -Do NOTHING and look for some Pvssy man who loves her for what's on the inside. When that does not work for her she can retreat to that old crock , "There are no good men out there any more .!"
( they are out there honey . They are just avoiding YOU )
 

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The theory of attractiveness would dictate that a woman needs a certain level of overall attractiveness - i.e., a total number of points - to be attractive to the typical man. Also, the theory of social matching would dictate that if such a woman had too many points, she would be generally unavailable, or if she were available, that she would be inordinately picky.

What this means in this case is that a woman with a beautiful face can have a major problem with another part of her physical attractiveness, yet still seem at high enough sexual market value (SMV) for other men to want her. Her maternal ancestors have all been at least attractive enough in the face for them to have secured a suitable enough male to continue the genetic line. They didn't have great figures, but they had cute faces, and that was enough.

I have a similar situation. I am a beautiful man with a high intellect and an outgoing personality. But I am also short. If I were taller, I believe that I would have high SMV women crawling all over me. If I were unattractive as well as just being short, I would have a very hard time being in the game.
 

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life gets a lot crueler than that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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persistent exaction said:
life gets a lot crueler than that.
She could've been a 9.9, beautiful personality, great attitude, no flaws whatsoever...

in a wheelchair.
 

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joekerr31 said:
...life can be cruel.
Life is based on the choices you make and how you act upon them. Like DJD said, there's some guy out there who won't mind.
 

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She could've been a 9.9, beautiful personality, great attitude, no flaws whatsoever...

in a wheelchair.
I know a woman in that very situation. It reminds me that there are better men than me out there who wouldn't mind.
 

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joekerr31 said:
ok, so the other day im out shopping.

one of the girls working had a 10 out of 10 face. i mean, DROP dead gorgeous.

BUT her mid section was fuh fuh fuh fuh fuhcked! it was the wierdest thing. she wasn't fat, but had a soft ugly upside down muffin roll of fat around her midsection. the rest of her body was totally normal though - wierdest fuhking thing i've seen in a long time.

best i can figure she must of at some point been very overweight and then lost a ton of it. her arms, legs, face, butt were all normal size, but her mid section was just fuh-hucked! the fat wasn't hard, it was soft and droopy like.

gotta feel bad for someone like that who would be killer drop dead gorgeous if not for that one major problem.

life can be cruel.
I met and phucked somebody like that. You cannot imagine my reaction when I took her shirt off. Damn...it was bad. Not as bad as described above...but bad enough. I have NEVER experienced something like that. (I hope we are not talking about the same woman! LOL.)

And I'm telling you...and this is going to sound bad...I had to do an effort to ejaculate (nearly 50 minutes which is a lot for a man that spent the previous 2 or 3 hours making out and getting super horny with her). Heck...when I started to phuck her...I was not even thinking about the act, I was wondering more about how to get the heck out of there. And then...after I finished...I didn't want to do anything more. I just wanted her to leave.

Anyway...I ended up phucking her over half dozen more times (not the same night of course). But...every time I did...somehow I managed to allow her to have her shirt on. It is just that her face was damn beautiful and she was very nice that it was hard not to feel some desire. But shirt on...all the time. And I didn't do it as frequently. At the end...I just couldn't any more. I mean...shirt all the time? She wanted more...and there was NO WAY in hell I was going to be in a serious relationship with her. Fortunatelly...I was phucking 3 more women (1 of which was quite frequently).

What a waste...what a damn waste.

I wonder if there is something out there that she could have done to have that stuff repaired.

Sad.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Was the roll of fat that really that bad?

Not every chick has a flat stomach or a six-pack and in our increasing obese society the average adult is this country is carrying about 10-20 extra pounds.

Maybe the clothes she was wearing made it look even worse or maybe she could work out.

If she is really hot except for the tummy cushion, are you sure you are not reaching for perfection because there really is no perfect chick.

I can deal with a small amount of extra waistline on a woman as long as it is within reason.

If it just looked completely disgusting then hey I can understand.
 

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disciple said:
Was the roll of fat that really that bad?

Not every chick has a flat stomach or a six-pack and in our increasing obese society the average adult is this country is carrying about 10-20 extra pounds.

Maybe the clothes she was wearing made it look even worse or maybe she could work out.

If she is really hot except for the tummy cushion, are you sure you are not reaching for perfection because there really is no perfect chick.

I can deal with a small amount of extra waistline on a woman as long as it is within reason.

If it just looked completely disgusting then hey I can understand.
Having a tummy is acceptable. But having skin hanging down is not.
 

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I dated a chick for a couple of months that had some BAD stretch marks. She was pretty petite and the baby did a number on her. Stretch marks, I can deal with, her psychotic personality...that's another story...
 

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well it was bad enough that when you see her you go "What the fuhuck?!"

even fat people dont make think that.
 
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