"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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2Rocky

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I'm not a New Year Resolution guy, but I think every now and then I need to measure where I am against where I want to be.

This looks like a good way to do that:




Work/life balance can be measured in several dimensions; time dedicated, priority, success, energy levels etc. When considering Wellbeing however, it is most useful to measure Contentment.

Contentment is achieved when ones expectations are met. For example, if at work one can reasonably expect career progression, personal/career development and/or to obtain job satisfaction then, if these expectations are met, one is more likely to be contented. Clearly if they are not met one may well be discontented.

The Balanced Circle is an insightful way of evaluating the balance of contentment within your life. The circle is divided up into the general components outlined below.


Health – both physical and psychological.

Fun & recreation – the things you enjoy.

Friends & family & significant other – those who you enjoy spending time with.

Money – remuneration for the work you do.

Personal growth – learning new skills to enhance capability and capacity both physically and intellectually.

Physical environment – where you work and live.

Work – your current and future job roles.



Individuals can mark their level of contentment in each area using the diagram below.


It can be useful to consider the Balanced Circle as a wheel. Equal levels of contentment in all areas would result in a smoother, circular shape that can spin or rotate easily. One is likely to experience a smoother life experience or ride. An irregular shape however would cause ones ride to be bumpy.

Whilst the appropriate balance is likely to be specific to the individual, one should broadly aim to create overall optimal contentment shared largely equally between areas. Like for the wheel, significant differences between components will lead to a more unbalanced, bumpy experience. It is important to remember that contentment is a dynamic measure, natural or unexpected changes will happen and the shape will be different at different stages of one’s life. However, one may be better equipped to deal with these changes when content in most other areas of their life.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Thanks for sharing. Balance is crucial in life, no doubt. In Bhutan, they don't have a GDP measurement. They measure Gross National Happiness. I think this would be a good thing to have here in the states. In a country where everything is transactional, it'd be a refreshing thing to see.

Gross National Happiness | Tourism Council of Bhutan
 

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In Bhutan, they don't have a GDP measurement.
Yes, they absolutely do.


They measure Gross National Happiness.
That's a marketing angle to attract tourism.
 

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Yes, they absolutely do.

Didn't know that. Thanks for letting me know.
 

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is there a questionnaire that goes with this?
There might be one out there some Life-Coach has put together.....But I think it's totally personal. I think I will split the Money section into "Saving" and "Cashflow". Health into Fitness/wellness. Career into Earning/environment

The reason for the exercise is to evaluate which areas of oyur life oyu want to put the most effort into to balance. Then work on Actionable Items within that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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