“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Lie Detection 101

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Why is deception detection important: the skill-set may prove useful when hiring potential employees, employee theft, revealing whether or not your future spouse/girlfriend truly loves you or is after your money. Dealing with your stock broker, sales rep, lawyer, ex-wife, car dealer, mechanic, scam artist, etc.

Lie detectors (not an accurate name) have come a long way since their conception. Back in the day, they used velcro attachments around your fingers and any deviation (in the annoying continual audio pulse) would indicate a physiological change. Polygraphs soon became the standard testing for deception and were a little more accurate but not much. Even today there is still much controversy over the validity of said devices. As the computer-age continues to advance we have seen enhancements; voice stress analyzers, facial micro expression detectors, pupil diagnostics, body language, micro temperature gauge, syntax word usage, etc. The human factor is still the best indicator when detecting deception.


PATHOLOGICAL LIAR-these types got it down to a art form. Very smooth, calm, almost everything they spew contains some form of deception. When they get bored they often allow some truth to slip out.

IN THE FIELD-these are people that know how to conceal the truth. They may work in the industry, done extensive research, practice regularly. To them telling the truth is at their discretion.

BASIC LIAR-these types often resort to lying to make themselves feel important, make their stories sound more interesting, when questioned, various wrong doings, need or hiding something from you, etc

OCCASSIONAL LIAR-these types do not like to lie, they may lie to avoid confrontation, when pressed for time, to avoid hurting a persons feelings/ego, to conceal a surprise, age, weight, etc.

ZONES OF INTEREST

FACIAL-METT (micro expression training tool) is a program used by various law enforcement agencies to learn how to interpret minute, quick facial expressions. These flash expressions may appear on the face for only 1/5th of a second. Examples include; flinch, eye blink, nostril flare, eye brow movements, lip movements, pupil dialation, etc. There are 43 muscles in the face and when in conjunction with the body they can form 10,000 expressions.

BODY-observers are looking for any body movements in contradiction to your words. Examples include; shoulder movements, shaking of the head No when saying yes, neck movements, swallow, touching of arm, hair, jewelery, head/arm movements, hands, itchy, leaning, tapping of fingers, feet,

OTHER-temperature of hands, spikes in blood pressure, breathing, heart rate. sweating, etc

FOOLING THE DETECTORS

Current Polygraphs cannot read your mind, they simply record physiological responses. They can detect guilt or if you are hiding something but can`t tell which specific emotion you are responding to. Keep in mind you are being observed, If you are being interviewed take note of the following; Your goal is to produce a FALSE POSITIVE rendering the test or exam in-effective. (N.D.I.) means No Deception Indicated.

A) HAND TALKERS-no, not sign language, but people who use their hands when they speak are know as ILLUSTRATORS. Touching your arm, scratching your nose, flipping your hair back, licking the lips, stretching, etc are known as MANIPULATORS. When the manipulators exceed the illustrators the result is a lie.

B) REFUSE THE TEST-if it is optional, opt out not to take the test, quoting non-reliable.

C) CALM & RELAX-don`t try to second guess the questions/answers, don`t act over confident, relax, be calm, smooth, pause, resist the urge to answer too quickly.

D) ALTER BREATHING-vary your breathing rate after each set of questions.

E) BLOOD PRESSURE-discreetly bite your tongue, step on a hidden tack in your shoe, constrict abdominal muscles.

F) THINK-when reflecting for an answer do complex math in your head, think of a scary memory, horny, etc, to mislead electronic detectors.

G) DRUGS-certain muscle relaxers, drugs can assist in maintaining composure, physiological responses. Botox can fool micro expression analysis.

H) DO NOT VOLUNTEER-no need to elaborate or volunteer any additional information.

I) CONTROL YOUR ANSWERS-Correct yourself a few times to sound non rehershed., Vary the non-direct and direct eye contact, Include non-specific, irrelevant details from time to time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Best way to catch out a liar is to question imaginary details. For example, if your gf comes back home late one evening and says she went to see a movie with a friend, but you doubt that, you could say you heard there was a big pile-up next to the movie theatre and ask her if she was in it. If she's telling the truth then she'll answer immediately that there was no pile-up. If she's lying then she might answer one way or the other, but without exception she WILL hesitate and that's your clue.
 

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YA I POSTED THAT IN ANOTHER ARTICLE REFERRED T IT AS SETTING A TRAP.......only works on poor liars.

These micro expressions I speak of only last 1/5th of a second.......and they are sub-conscious and UNIVERSAL.

People cant control how their body language reacts to certain scenarios easily. No matter where u live on the planet........DECEPTION LEAKAGE is autonomic.
 

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another lesser known common thread amongst people who insist on lying is there is decption in other areas of their existance.

If they lie they may cheat, as cheatng and lying go hand in hand. If you look closer, people of deception tend to be not legit in other areas. EXAMPLES: taxes, cheat at games, steal stuff, scams at work, fudge figures, exaggerate stories.

Their actions often support their deception.........so the next time U catch someone doing something inapropriate monitor what they say with caution.

This is a bit of contradiction from Millers law but is often true in reality.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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mikeyb said:
Best way to catch out a liar is to question imaginary details. For example, if your gf comes back home late one evening and says she went to see a movie with a friend, but you doubt that, you could say you heard there was a big pile-up next to the movie theatre and ask her if she was in it. If she's telling the truth then she'll answer immediately that there was no pile-up. If she's lying then she might answer one way or the other, but without exception she WILL hesitate and that's your clue.
Let me get this straight.

You're going to purposely lie to your girlfriend to see if she's possibly lying and you don't see where the problem really (cough) lies?

Projection at it's finest.
 
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