"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Leverage - girls use it, how come guys do not?

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A girl probably wouldn't be cognizant of the concept of leverage , but she subconsciously uses it all the time when it comes to the mating dance.

If she has beautiful legs - she leverages it by wearing skirts

If she has a curvy bust - she leverages it by wearing low-cut shirts

If she sees you could be falling for her - she uses sex to reel you in and seal the deal

If she sees you are considering a pre-nup, she leverages *love* to talk you out of it. 'If you really loved me, you wouldn't consider it.'

If she sees you are considering foreign girls, she leverages *shame* by telling you: 'So you can't handle real women?'

What's fascinating is that men do leverage their strengths, when it comes to say the workplace, but men do NOT leverage their strengths when it comes to relationships.

A man's biggest advantage is time. He has time since his sexual market value is less dependent on his youth, and more dependent on his career success and personality. Men have time, girls don't. This should swing the pendulum towards men. Interestingly, men do not leverage this and instead settle for the first half-decent girl that likes him.

There are many other examples of men failing to leverage their strengths in the dating/relationship game (i.e. having money). I believe it is due to fear, shaming, and misinformation.

Do you have any personal examples of guys failing to utilize leverage to their advantage?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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No, biggest leverage is the ability to walk away and find another woman
 

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use leverage by not giving her the constant validation all the other guys do, make her work for it
 

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Some men use their leverage, but not enough to have a significant overall effect on women and their sense of entitlement. Too many are brainwashed by anti-male propoganda. For example, the OP mentions how men have the benefit of more time. That's absolutely true. But, women try to fight that by telling older bachelors that they need to "grow up" or get over their "fear of commitment" etc. It's just another shaming tactic.

This may be off topic, but speaking of leverage, I always wondered what it would be like if men everywhere stopped approaching women at bars/clubs for say a few months. (I'm thinking like a boycott of sorts.) Just act like women. Hang out with your friends, talk, laugh, drink, even dance if you want. (Just no touching or grinding with your guy friends lol.) Complelely ignore women and don't even look at them. Then when a woman tries to approach you, give her the meanest "How dare you approach me" glare. Call it the "Man Shield" lol. You would eventually see the b*tchiest girls start to, gasp, turn friendly once they've lost their validation.

Unfortunately, this is a hypothetical only and will never happen.
 

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Mike32ct said:
Some men use their leverage, but not enough to have a significant overall effect on women and their sense of entitlement. Too many are brainwashed by anti-male propoganda. For example, the OP mentions how men have the benefit of more time. That's absolutely true. But, women try to fight that by telling older bachelors that they need to "grow up" or get over their "fear of commitment" etc. It's just another shaming tactic.

This may be off topic, but speaking of leverage, I always wondered what it would be like if men everywhere stopped approaching women at bars/clubs for say a few months. (I'm thinking like a boycott of sorts.) Just act like women. Hang out with your friends, talk, laugh, drink, even dance if you want. (Just no touching or grinding with your guy friends lol.) Complelely ignore women and don't even look at them. Then when a woman tries to approach you, give her the meanest "How dare you approach me" glare. Call it the "Man Shield" lol. You would eventually see the b*tchiest girls start to, gasp, turn friendly once they've lost their validation.

Unfortunately, this is a hypothetical only and will never happen.
LOL sounds like the old school TBTC crew.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=TBTC
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I would love for men to stop putting pu$$y on such high grounds. That's what is messing it all up. If men were real with these broads and realized once the makeup is gone every chick is like an 8... world would be abetter place
 

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If she sees you are considering foreign girls, she leverages *shame* by telling you: 'So you can't handle real women?'
It's true. I cannot put my arms around the typical American woman. :woo:
 

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A lot of guys don't use leverage, simply because they don't realize that they have any. They are slaves to the leverage of a female and believe the world to be as such. Rather than believe that they have any, they try to deal with the female's leverage in hopes of balancing the scales in their favor.

Unfortunately, that almost never happens, and in most cases, the balance is tipped in their favor only when the woman has no other options.
 
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