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Hey men!
This is the first post in a series, I think 2 or 3 at most, highlighting the "Level of Life," or the life situation a man should be in, and the package he should have, depending on his circumstances.
We'll talk about Level 1: "Life 1.0."
With all this online content and social media, people have truly lost their direction and their "meaning of living."
I've realized that what really moves you forward in life is having a clear direction and building something solid, a kind of "inner temple" that no one can shake. Especially not a woman nor the media.
One thing that you can only destroy yourself, through self-destruction by falling into the trap of believing these things in today's media.
I think of this as "Life 1.0": your starting point, everything you build when you don't rely on "having a woman in your life."
Once you have that, We'll talk about “Life 2.0,” where women are naturally part of your life, you have options, and you may choose to build a LTR, cohabitation, family, marriage, and so on.
Men need a solid “Life 1.0” foundation so they don’t center their lives around women and lose their direction, which leads to poor relationship experiences and lack of growth. Maintaining personal independence and self-respect allows a man to evaluate relationships clearly, keep his own frame, and choose freely whether a relationship is truly worth.
The key point is: if a relationship doesn't work out, especially these days due to lack of respect and immaturity, you can always return to your Life 1.0, which has always been your foundation.
To build a solid Life 1.0, a big part of that is having consistent, balanced daily habits that keep you grounded and strong.
It's easy nowadays to fall into certain narratives and lose sight of what really matters: having direction, strong boundaries, self-respect, a bit of playfulness, and respect for the important people in your life.
So we should evaluate together the non-negotiables things a man should have in his Life 1.0 before stepping into Life 2.0.
That's just a desire, after seying too many friends jump straight from “Life 0.0” into relationships, Life 2.0, skipping the foundation entirely. And when those relationships end, they fall back to nothing.
So the choice is up to us: to build Life 1.0, prior, or depend entirely on Life 2.0, living without a frame.
Let's try to build a solid framework together: a kind of checklist to understand where we stand, without relying on media narratives or external validation, or "what women say they want/need in men" (which is never what they really want).
This is what a man needs in his "Life 1.0", works in most modern cultures.
1)Independent living situation (own place or renting, living alone)
2) Career or work that generates income and financial stability (the hardest part, and luck plays a role)
3) Health, fitness, grooming, and personal style (not falling for fashion)
4) Core activities that build you as a man (not just hobbies), such as martial arts, hiking/camping/biking, cooking/BBQ, archery/shooting, boating, things that give you real feedback and challenge, and build your masculine side.
5) Family (if you have one), plus a solid circle of friends (not just networking)
6) Opportunistic/light networking
The goal is to create a structure we can carry with us in our pocket or just print and frame so we can remember who we are, where we are, and what our focus is, and that helps men know where they stand, without blindly trusting media or external influences. And honestly, if men don't actively work on themselves, even other men won't have much to offer in terms of guidance.
I'm sure many of the more experienced and grounded men here already have their own version of “Life 1.0” that they've returned to when they had to separate.
So, for us man, that's the starting point.
I'd like this to become something valuable, in the bible, not for credit or recognition, but as a collective effort.
So contribute, refine, challenge these ideas, and help build something solid.
Let's make this list strong.
ps: notice how the list doesn't contain "qualities" a man should have. This is more "things" a man should have/ do in his life, just because having those things, the package of Life 1.0, will mostly make the man learn/project those qualities by itself
This is the first post in a series, I think 2 or 3 at most, highlighting the "Level of Life," or the life situation a man should be in, and the package he should have, depending on his circumstances.
We'll talk about Level 1: "Life 1.0."
With all this online content and social media, people have truly lost their direction and their "meaning of living."
I've realized that what really moves you forward in life is having a clear direction and building something solid, a kind of "inner temple" that no one can shake. Especially not a woman nor the media.
One thing that you can only destroy yourself, through self-destruction by falling into the trap of believing these things in today's media.
I think of this as "Life 1.0": your starting point, everything you build when you don't rely on "having a woman in your life."
Once you have that, We'll talk about “Life 2.0,” where women are naturally part of your life, you have options, and you may choose to build a LTR, cohabitation, family, marriage, and so on.
Men need a solid “Life 1.0” foundation so they don’t center their lives around women and lose their direction, which leads to poor relationship experiences and lack of growth. Maintaining personal independence and self-respect allows a man to evaluate relationships clearly, keep his own frame, and choose freely whether a relationship is truly worth.
The key point is: if a relationship doesn't work out, especially these days due to lack of respect and immaturity, you can always return to your Life 1.0, which has always been your foundation.
To build a solid Life 1.0, a big part of that is having consistent, balanced daily habits that keep you grounded and strong.
It's easy nowadays to fall into certain narratives and lose sight of what really matters: having direction, strong boundaries, self-respect, a bit of playfulness, and respect for the important people in your life.
So we should evaluate together the non-negotiables things a man should have in his Life 1.0 before stepping into Life 2.0.
That's just a desire, after seying too many friends jump straight from “Life 0.0” into relationships, Life 2.0, skipping the foundation entirely. And when those relationships end, they fall back to nothing.
So the choice is up to us: to build Life 1.0, prior, or depend entirely on Life 2.0, living without a frame.
Let's try to build a solid framework together: a kind of checklist to understand where we stand, without relying on media narratives or external validation, or "what women say they want/need in men" (which is never what they really want).
This is what a man needs in his "Life 1.0", works in most modern cultures.
1)Independent living situation (own place or renting, living alone)
2) Career or work that generates income and financial stability (the hardest part, and luck plays a role)
3) Health, fitness, grooming, and personal style (not falling for fashion)
4) Core activities that build you as a man (not just hobbies), such as martial arts, hiking/camping/biking, cooking/BBQ, archery/shooting, boating, things that give you real feedback and challenge, and build your masculine side.
5) Family (if you have one), plus a solid circle of friends (not just networking)
6) Opportunistic/light networking
The goal is to create a structure we can carry with us in our pocket or just print and frame so we can remember who we are, where we are, and what our focus is, and that helps men know where they stand, without blindly trusting media or external influences. And honestly, if men don't actively work on themselves, even other men won't have much to offer in terms of guidance.
I'm sure many of the more experienced and grounded men here already have their own version of “Life 1.0” that they've returned to when they had to separate.
So, for us man, that's the starting point.
I'd like this to become something valuable, in the bible, not for credit or recognition, but as a collective effort.
So contribute, refine, challenge these ideas, and help build something solid.
Let's make this list strong.
ps: notice how the list doesn't contain "qualities" a man should have. This is more "things" a man should have/ do in his life, just because having those things, the package of Life 1.0, will mostly make the man learn/project those qualities by itself
