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There are different levels of communication when it comes to people in general, but I'm going to focus on the effects they have on women. With the exception of "Written", the order that these appear is the best order to use when communicating with a woman.
These levels range from being shallow to being deep. Let's start with the most shallow method of communication and work our way up...
Written
This is the shallowest method of communication. It is also man-made and unnatural. This method of communication was developed mainly for record keeping and storytelling. After the invention of paper, it
was used to communicate across long distances and maintain communication between two people. When newspaper personals came along, people began using it to initiate communication with the opposite sex. Now, with the popularity of the internet, it has been used to initiate communication more than ever.
However, this method of communication is not effective when it comes to communicating voice tone, facial expression, body language and touch. "Smileys" are just a lousy simulation of facial expressions. We'll eventually see the reasons why you get a woman on the phone quickly after meeting her on the internet. When you use written communication for a long period of time, the person on the recieving end (especially women) will paint their own picture of you, complete with voice tone. When they meet you in person, they may be disappointed because you don't match the person they've created in their imagination.
Verbal
Used well when initiating conversation. This is a man's strongest method of communication. Two men can communicate and share the same ideas and emotion with each other. However, when a man uses this form of communication to express his attraction to a woman, she won't respond well and be "confused".
This method of communication is useful when it comes to communicating voice tone. Technology has been able to isolate this form of communication with the invention of the telephone. Ever hear the expression "It's nice to hear your voice"? It's very refreshing because it's not as impersonal as written communication. However, this method of communication doesn't communicate body language
and facial expressions.
Body
Body language is a deeper form of communication than verbal (believe it or not). The deaf have been able to demonstrate this very well with sign language. They have proven that you don't have to communicate verbally to get your message across.
Body language includes facial expressions. It's also very useful for communicating emotion. You can tell someone is sad by looking at them. It is not used very often in initiating conversation.
Women are more sensitive to body language than men. Women read body language almost constantly but very rarely understand the message. Ever hear a woman say, "What was that dirty look for"? I didn't know what a dirty look was until I started dating! Women will make judgements based on body language. They will be more receptive to someone who is giving off positive body language than someone giving off negative body language. Women can easily detect "confidence" by body language alone.
The bad part about body language is that it's ineffective in communicating attraction and sexuality. You cannot communicate feelings to a woman with body language.
Touch
Also known as "Kino". This method is even deeper than body language. Although not the best method of initiating conversation, You can communicate a LOT with touch. This is where you communicate feelings effectively. You can tell a woman that you like her as "more than a friend" by touch and she'll get the message loud and clear. This does not include sexual touch.
Touch combined with verbal and body language is extremely powerful. A woman will respond to a man the best when all three are present.
Although touch communicates positive feelings very well, it can communicate negative feelings as effectively. Violent touch gets the negative message across loud and clear.
Sexual
The absolute deepest form of communication, and pretty much a more advanced state of "Touch". Combined with verbal and body language, messages are communicated almost to the point of touching the emotions. This is the absolute best way to communicate attraction and feelings, and women will respond to it well. This includes kissing and the act of sex.
However, there are a lot of negatives with this form of
communication.
1) Worst way to initiate conversation
2) To men, this form of communication has been turned into a "reward". Men will go out of their way and put their own interests aside to communicate sexually with a woman. It has no longer become a form of communication, but has become a form of currency in the minds of men. They will do a favor for the woman and expect to get paid in sexual communication. Does that make sense?
3) To the woman, this form of communication has turned into currency as well, most often used as a bribe to get what they want. "I'll communicate sexually with you if you buy me a drink".
These are the MAJOR problems with this form of communication. Society has strayed from it being a form of communication.
The prevention of it becoming a form of currency in any relationship is simple. Don't view it as a form of currency, and dispell it becoming a form of currency. If she says "I'll communicate with you sexually if
you buy me a drink" just laugh at her and pat her on the head. Then walk away.
In summary, this is how communication works, and how it can work well when communicating to women. It will work against you if you get the order wrong or use the wrong form of communication to get your message across.
These levels range from being shallow to being deep. Let's start with the most shallow method of communication and work our way up...
Written
This is the shallowest method of communication. It is also man-made and unnatural. This method of communication was developed mainly for record keeping and storytelling. After the invention of paper, it
was used to communicate across long distances and maintain communication between two people. When newspaper personals came along, people began using it to initiate communication with the opposite sex. Now, with the popularity of the internet, it has been used to initiate communication more than ever.
However, this method of communication is not effective when it comes to communicating voice tone, facial expression, body language and touch. "Smileys" are just a lousy simulation of facial expressions. We'll eventually see the reasons why you get a woman on the phone quickly after meeting her on the internet. When you use written communication for a long period of time, the person on the recieving end (especially women) will paint their own picture of you, complete with voice tone. When they meet you in person, they may be disappointed because you don't match the person they've created in their imagination.
Verbal
Used well when initiating conversation. This is a man's strongest method of communication. Two men can communicate and share the same ideas and emotion with each other. However, when a man uses this form of communication to express his attraction to a woman, she won't respond well and be "confused".
This method of communication is useful when it comes to communicating voice tone. Technology has been able to isolate this form of communication with the invention of the telephone. Ever hear the expression "It's nice to hear your voice"? It's very refreshing because it's not as impersonal as written communication. However, this method of communication doesn't communicate body language
and facial expressions.
Body
Body language is a deeper form of communication than verbal (believe it or not). The deaf have been able to demonstrate this very well with sign language. They have proven that you don't have to communicate verbally to get your message across.
Body language includes facial expressions. It's also very useful for communicating emotion. You can tell someone is sad by looking at them. It is not used very often in initiating conversation.
Women are more sensitive to body language than men. Women read body language almost constantly but very rarely understand the message. Ever hear a woman say, "What was that dirty look for"? I didn't know what a dirty look was until I started dating! Women will make judgements based on body language. They will be more receptive to someone who is giving off positive body language than someone giving off negative body language. Women can easily detect "confidence" by body language alone.
The bad part about body language is that it's ineffective in communicating attraction and sexuality. You cannot communicate feelings to a woman with body language.
Touch
Also known as "Kino". This method is even deeper than body language. Although not the best method of initiating conversation, You can communicate a LOT with touch. This is where you communicate feelings effectively. You can tell a woman that you like her as "more than a friend" by touch and she'll get the message loud and clear. This does not include sexual touch.
Touch combined with verbal and body language is extremely powerful. A woman will respond to a man the best when all three are present.
Although touch communicates positive feelings very well, it can communicate negative feelings as effectively. Violent touch gets the negative message across loud and clear.
Sexual
The absolute deepest form of communication, and pretty much a more advanced state of "Touch". Combined with verbal and body language, messages are communicated almost to the point of touching the emotions. This is the absolute best way to communicate attraction and feelings, and women will respond to it well. This includes kissing and the act of sex.
However, there are a lot of negatives with this form of
communication.
1) Worst way to initiate conversation
2) To men, this form of communication has been turned into a "reward". Men will go out of their way and put their own interests aside to communicate sexually with a woman. It has no longer become a form of communication, but has become a form of currency in the minds of men. They will do a favor for the woman and expect to get paid in sexual communication. Does that make sense?
3) To the woman, this form of communication has turned into currency as well, most often used as a bribe to get what they want. "I'll communicate sexually with you if you buy me a drink".
These are the MAJOR problems with this form of communication. Society has strayed from it being a form of communication.
The prevention of it becoming a form of currency in any relationship is simple. Don't view it as a form of currency, and dispell it becoming a form of currency. If she says "I'll communicate with you sexually if
you buy me a drink" just laugh at her and pat her on the head. Then walk away.
In summary, this is how communication works, and how it can work well when communicating to women. It will work against you if you get the order wrong or use the wrong form of communication to get your message across.