Letting my sexual inexperience get to me

[Colin O'Brien]

hey everyone

So college is coming up very soon, I start next week. I've been doing a ton of RSD-like stuff, inner game, confidence building, becoming more outgoing, confident around *both* genders, and becoming generally more likeable than my old, boring, AFC self. Though there's room for improvement, I feel pretty great all the time.

Here's my one thing though: I'm a virgin still, and for some reason it's getting to me. I know I'm going to suck my first time in college, and I know that everyone goes through the same thing, just the fact that sexually I'm starting so late has been weighing more and more on me in the weeks before I leave. I need some words of advice for how to mentally approach this issue, can anyone help?

Also I wouldn't say no to some quick tips on how not to suck *too* bad my first time

 

[TizZle]

Guess I'll chime in on this one since i was in the same boat before. I was a virgin until 19. I watched porn while a virgin and just used positions/techniques from the videos. Don't worry it's not hard to catch up.

 

[K2000kidd]

the first thing i did was go down on her
try using your tounge to write her name on her clt
she had no idea she was my first LOL

 

[The Forms]

Yea, don't put too much pressure on yourself. Feeling pressured and feeling crazy anxiety to perform is going to do nothing good for you. When it's happening, just relax.

Once you're hooking up take things really, really slow. You ain't got nowhere to be, so don't go straight for her boobs or vag. It's not a race. Women like being kissed and touched all over, and if you don't go straight for her boobs you'll look like you have a million times more experience than most guys your age (hell, you'll look like you have more experience than most guys ten years older than you).

For what it's worth, since she's likely going to be 18 too, every guy she's slept with was probably awful in the sack, so she won't even know the difference. (I'm not hating on you high school guys, I'm sure some of you have a few tricks up your sleeve. But by and large guys who're just entering college don't have the experience older guys have.)

Truth be told, the bar is set pretty low for how good you need to be in the sack when you're hooking up with a freshman in college. The first time I was with a girl I was a freshman in college, and I was just blindly feeling around and trying stuff out. But she was inexperienced enough to where that was fine with her, she didn't know the difference either. These girls have only been with a few guys before you, and those were all high school dudes (AKA, they're not exactly seasoned pros yet.) There's no shame in not being great in bed when you're 18.

Also, if you don't know if you're doing it how she likes it, ask her how she likes it. If you're rubbing her ****, say, "is this good, or do you want it a little different?" She'll be glad you asked. Some girls want direct ****oral stimulation, but for other girls this is soo much sensation and is almost painful, so they'd rather your finger be on the ****oral hood or rubbing around the general area (which pulls on the **** enough to give her nice sensations) Each girl is different, and the only way to find out how she likes it is to ask. Asking won't make you seem inexperienced, it'll likely make you seem more experienced (because I know when I first started I didn't ask her ****, now I ask a new girl how she likes this or that, and they're always happy to tell me what feels good.

Most guys are too embarrassed to ask how she likes it, and most girls are too embarrassed to speak up, which just results in neither of you getting near as much pleasure as you could get out of the experience.