"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Letting a girl know you're inexperienced

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The girl is 17 and a virgin, but I know you don't want to come off as an inexperienced guy. She is for certain reasons all but convinced that I'm an experienced player when the truth is I lost my virginity at the same age she did and that's the only time I've had sex with a girl, other than that just a few makeouts. I could kiss properly but didn't know how to tongue properly and didn't know how to kiss skin at all a few weeks ago before I started seeing this girl, which should've been a dead giveaway that I'm inexperienced. I haven't told her any lies but I haven't clearly refuted anything she's suspected either because I know it's better to give off the image of being experienced.

The thing is I can feel the lie building up and I don't like it. I want to be honest about myself, not lie to her and myself, but I don't want to do it in a way that does more damage than necessary. Any tips?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Fake it till you make it. Do NOT tell her sh!t.
 

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El Payaso said:
Fake it till you make it. Do NOT tell her sh!t.
^This. Don't answer a question that hasn't been asked.

If she asks how many you've been with AND you don't feel comfortable lying, then say one. It's not really a big deal. As long as you're not a virgin, she'll assume you know what you're doing.
 

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You've been given good advice. Don't say anything.

In fact use this advice for most of your interactions with women.

Too many guys think they have to tell women stuff that is completely unnecessary and many times it hurts your cause. I'm not telling you to lie, but just don't reveal things unless you have to.

Less is more.
 

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Watch porn dude. Not the crazy bondage sheet but videos close to normal everyday people seks. When you meet with the girl, first thing to remember is RELAX. Go slow. Control your breathing. Go over what you want to do before she gets there, if it helps act it out. I'll move her from here to here while I kiss her neck or grab her ass. Visualize it before she gets there. Ask her what she likes before the day. Every girl is different.

Remember she doesn't see your lack of confidence all she sees is what you show her. Kiss her slow. Use your hands. Rub her hair, whisper in her ears then stop. Let her long for it. Restart and slide your hand down. Stop. Each time you resume you advance till you eventually give her what she came for.

You're not inexperienced. You have a lot of brothers with knowledge cheering behind you. Make us proud.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You don't have to tell her, if she asks just say you've been with 1 or 2 girls before.
 

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The first girl I was ever with was not a virgin. Being my first time I was also eager to try oral but I wasn't great at it (hell who is their first time down there?) plus her hygiene wasn't that great either. At the time I didn't much care since I was getting some.

I could tell she noticed and later she commented about it, but overall she didn't care considering I was pounding on her for about a solid 4 hours that night. She let me do practically anything to her that weekend and she actually commented about how bad my oral was; I didn't care though and obviously she didn't, and it got the point where she was sticking her butt up against me or in my face that weekend because she couldn't get enough d!ck.
 

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Thanks guys, I know you have this sh!t down. I'll just continue doing what I've done and not bring it up myself, never give a straight answer to anything she says about it but never blatantly lie either and keep practising. It's not like I'm keeping the charade up to be an @sshole anyway, girls just don't feel comfortable around inexperience. Maybe one day when I've learned everything I can tell her she's my second if she asks.

On the bright side she keeps admitting she wants me to f*ck her and things like I "don't know what she'd do with me", I know nothing I've done so far has f*cked things up. All that stands in my way is her sense of virginity and religion...

And another thing. She doesn't want me to meet any girl she knows because she thinks they'll take me from her. How do I go around that so I can get more contacts?
 

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STFU!!...and wait till she's 18. Jail sucks.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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VladPatton said:
STFU!!...and wait till she's 18. Jail sucks.
15 is the legal age here ;)
 
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