"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PVSSY-EATER

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I have been involved in recreating myself from the inside out, and I have developed a lot more love and self confidence for myself. The Don Juan tactics and techniques come natural to me now, where before, they were more seducation and calculation techniques like players do. But lets think about something....

Do you guys think that there is something really called love? I mean, where you can let your guards down, be an AFC, and she can let her guards down(hers will already be down, hehe) and its kind of like, I dunno, this wonderful blissful feeling. Now I have felt it, I know you guys have felt it, but IS IT REAL? And do you think you would ever get to the place where you could feel this way about a girl and she BE ATTRACTED TO IT. Because this is my problem and some of you guys might think I am gay but......

I HAVE BECAME SO INTO MYSELF, I AM NOT EVEN ATTRACTED TO WOMEN ANYMORE!! No, its not like I dont like them, its like I no longer need them! And honestly, if I dont feel that blissful feeling, its like, fvck, I dont even need her! I mean, hehe, does anybody seem to understand what I am saying?

Hell no I am not gay! But I have became so into myself and my future, I dont even give a damn about women anymore. Is this bad? And is that blissful feeling real? What do you guys think.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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As long as you're happy with yourself and your life, things are good for you! Women are complications. If you can live happily without them, then there's no need to pursue them.

I'm reaching the same stage myself these days. I'd much rather do my own thing and have been brushing off women in the meantime.

As for the blissful feeling, it's just a chemical reaction in the mind and body.
 

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Love is Gods way of saying your close to getting some.

:D
 

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What you're describing isn't exactly correct. Let me explain.

Improvement, and a lot of it at one time, can have a profound effect on a man. He feels that he is in control of his tasks at hand. But that is far from the truth. Only when you can access yourself in troubling times, after an upswing of fate, will things come together.

You say that you have come to this "state" of not needing women. That's fine and all. Women can be on the back burner to a man's overall grand plan. But somewhere along the line nature will creep in and send signals to correct what has been overlooked: bringing together man and woman.

It's ingrained in you buddy. Man can't deny woman, no matter what he does (and same vice versa). He can try, but to no avail. Denying what is supposed to happen will only unbalance the equation, which makes it that much more stronger of a feeling later on down the road.

Don't worry about it right now if it's not a problem. Keep your goals in check, but don't neglect the ladies.


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vagina eater i think you question and overcomplicate the things you do. learn to accept the things you do without question or reason. do things because you want to.

LOVE is just a feeling just like happyness or anger. if you fall in love you do not have to become an AFC.

an AFC in love will base his actions upon the feelings he feels
a MAN will still think with logic
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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***** eater, ha ha, strang name...

any way, if you feel that you dont need a women then you are probably satifying yourself TOO MUCH....

never the less, you might find that in this state of triumph, and pure will to resist your sexual urges, dont become arrogant....

this is a fatal pitfall many men stumble across when trying to improve there seductive skills.
 

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Love = power game. I think prosemont said it best to me once, "the one who loves more has insecurity and uncertainty".

I have found sometimes you will reach a stage where both of you let your guard down and you can love eachother like an "AFC", but things change quickly! Either way, the games are what makes it fun, without them, how boring would life be!

But man dont worry about that, first you gotta find a girl who you have the chemistry with and who has it with you. That alone seems to be able to take FOREVER, especially if you are like me (as you are appearing to become from your post), in that you are so into yourself you become not so into woman! Not only that, but your standards just go up and up and up, to the point you hardly find a girl worthy of your time!
 

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Originally posted by PVSSY-EATER

I HAVE BECAME SO INTO MYSELF, I AM NOT EVEN ATTRACTED TO WOMEN ANYMORE!!
Bullsh!t.

You're just using your alleged DJ-ism as another excuse not to talk to women.

You haven't reinvented yourself, you've just reinvented the make-believe world you live in.
 

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Originally posted by Jariel
As long as you're happy with yourself and your life, things are good for you! Women are complications. If you can live happily without them, then there's no need to pursue them.

I'm reaching the same stage myself these days. I'd much rather do my own thing and have been brushing off women in the meantime.

As for the blissful feeling, it's just a chemical reaction in the mind and body.
Theres a famous quote that is in the film "Papillon" as Steve McQueen's character is about to be led unto a solitary confinement cell for 5 years.....the Warden tells the prisoners, and I quote,

"Mastrubate as little as possible, it drains the strength"

This quote fits you guys well.
 

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Pu$$y, you need to redefine love because what you wanna do is keep the dj thing up long enough until you land the girl of your dreams. At this point (i think) your asking us if it's ok to turn into an afc and fall all over her. The point of not falling all over a chick is you loose connection with your own life. If you wann fall deeply in love with a girl, at which point you stopping talking to your friends, trying to meet new people, loose interest in work, stop going to the gym.....then thats afc love. But if you can keep the balance in your life and oppurntunies surrounding you than by all means go for it
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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OK, I also had the same thing happen to me. I definetly lost interest in girls and was totaly self-sufficient. And I'm still a RAFC :D

Then came the spring, my hormones went crazy, I got a few LJBFs and C&Bs, and I'm my old self again and came back in the game roaring!! I tell you, heartache will most probably get your juices flowin'.

Then again, why bother.. If you feel ok, then you got no problems! Who is to say you MUST have something goin on? Things tend to find you when you stop looking for them.
 
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