Pecker
Senior Don Juan
I live in a partying college town. For most of this year my best hope to get any action was to hook up with a drunk girl at a kegger.
Obviously I've grown tired of having little/no opportunity for success; I never talked to any girls during the day or in class I always thought I'd get lucky...literally...and by chance there'd be a girl a) attracted enough and b) intoxicated enough to start getting physical with me, a stranger, at a party on a Friday or Saturday. I'd get all dressed up and hopeful for the weekend, then get disappointed enough to last me through the week. Needless to say I realized my powerlessness in such a scenario.
Also, the party scene is an uneven playing ground. Girls chose the best looking guys because they have nothing else to go by. A guy can't work a girl's IL with personality because so many of the girls also put up HUGE b1tch shields, act immediately disgusted and make a guy feel sleazy and dirty just for striking up a conversation (something girls are GREAT at, one of the biggest weapons of their arsenal.)
So I realized the solution was to get good at cold approaching in non-pickup situations. I'm intensively practicing now that it's summer. I realize that getting better at the generic mall/street cold approach will not only boost my confidence, but improve my technical skill with conversation maintenance and also make me better in the pickup/party scene.
To anyone SERIOUS and really DEDICATED to getting better at making cold approaches, here is a chance to talk about it. I'll be posting my experiences soon.
I'd specifically like to hear:
Your worst failures
Your best successes
The biggest irony (ie, a girl you thought had NO interest whatsoever, then you call her and she invites you over to fvck...this is silly, I know, but some less extreme variation)
How you overcame the initial fear.
But if you have anything else to say on the subject, feel free. This post is for DOers, not talkers.
Obviously I've grown tired of having little/no opportunity for success; I never talked to any girls during the day or in class I always thought I'd get lucky...literally...and by chance there'd be a girl a) attracted enough and b) intoxicated enough to start getting physical with me, a stranger, at a party on a Friday or Saturday. I'd get all dressed up and hopeful for the weekend, then get disappointed enough to last me through the week. Needless to say I realized my powerlessness in such a scenario.
Also, the party scene is an uneven playing ground. Girls chose the best looking guys because they have nothing else to go by. A guy can't work a girl's IL with personality because so many of the girls also put up HUGE b1tch shields, act immediately disgusted and make a guy feel sleazy and dirty just for striking up a conversation (something girls are GREAT at, one of the biggest weapons of their arsenal.)
So I realized the solution was to get good at cold approaching in non-pickup situations. I'm intensively practicing now that it's summer. I realize that getting better at the generic mall/street cold approach will not only boost my confidence, but improve my technical skill with conversation maintenance and also make me better in the pickup/party scene.
To anyone SERIOUS and really DEDICATED to getting better at making cold approaches, here is a chance to talk about it. I'll be posting my experiences soon.
I'd specifically like to hear:
Your worst failures
Your best successes
The biggest irony (ie, a girl you thought had NO interest whatsoever, then you call her and she invites you over to fvck...this is silly, I know, but some less extreme variation)
How you overcame the initial fear.
But if you have anything else to say on the subject, feel free. This post is for DOers, not talkers.