Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Let's talk about the exes

DonJuanit0

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Guys, I have been so many times in this position where I am meeting a new woman who has some AFC dude still chasing her from the past. This is not like it happened to me once and it has probably happened to everyone here, when I find a new woman I want to be with, have a LTR or even just ****, there is a guy sending messages, threatening her, bother her and staff! Why do we, as men, don't understand when our facking princess is in another castle and stop busting her balls?

The woman I am now with, had this guy who learnt about us so he sent her a message saying: I know everything, for your own safety don't let me see you outside, I will find you bla bla bla and some swearing! Now, this was not the first time for me to face this but since this girl is only 20 years old I told her the simplest thing, he is threatening you via facebook, you can simply go to the police, what she did was going to her father! lol! And hee was pissed, A LOT! He called him on his phone and told him that he would find him himself before going to the police for what he wrote to his daughter! Anyway, the guy never sent any other message and he apologised to her father. Did it really have to get there for him to stop?

What I want to say to you guys, is that if you see your ex getting with someone else, don't become a wuss and a creep! I get it if you want to try once more and staff, and I am ok with it, but when the woman says it's over for good and doesn't want you back then walk away, especially if she is with someone else now! I know it's been told several times here but not from this position! I am tired "fighting" with exes! Seriously!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sometimes it could work in your advantage. It could make you look even better if she sees you are not phased by a crazy ex.
 

sylvester the cat

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DonJuanit0 said:
Guys, I have been so many times in this position where I am meeting a new woman who has some AFC dude still chasing her from the past. This is not like it happened to me once and it has probably happened to everyone here, when I find a new woman I want to be with, have a LTR or even just ****, there is a guy sending messages, threatening her, bother her and staff! Why do we, as men, don't understand when our facking princess is in another castle and stop busting her balls?

The woman I am now with, had this guy who learnt about us so he sent her a message saying: I know everything, for your own safety don't let me see you outside, I will find you bla bla bla and some swearing! Now, this was not the first time for me to face this but since this girl is only 20 years old I told her the simplest thing, he is threatening you via facebook, you can simply go to the police, what she did was going to her father! lol! And hee was pissed, A LOT! He called him on his phone and told him that he would find him himself before going to the police for what he wrote to his daughter! Anyway, the guy never sent any other message and he apologised to her father. Did it really have to get there for him to stop?

What I want to say to you guys, is that if you see your ex getting with someone else, don't become a wuss and a creep! I get it if you want to try once more and staff, and I am ok with it, but when the woman says it's over for good and doesn't want you back then walk away, especially if she is with someone else now! I know it's been told several times here but not from this position! I am tired "fighting" with exes! Seriously!
probably cos as soon as your back is turned she's giving the other afc the green signals? i don't know.
 

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sylvester the cat said:
probably cos as soon as your back is turned she's giving the other afc the green signals? i don't know.
Certainly not since this girl really wanted to get rid of this guy! I know that for sure!

Groverz said:
Sometimes it could work in your advantage. It could make you look even better if she sees you are not phased by a crazy ex.
I know, and I know how to handle it, the thing is it is getting annoying since this has happened too many times!
 

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DonJuanit0 said:
when the woman says it's over for good and doesn't want you back then walk away
When does this happen? Ive never had a woman say to me 'Im not interested/Its over. Go away.' Its always phrased as an aloof excuse or flake at best. God it would be great if they were that direct.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DonJuanit0

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DragonBlood said:
When does this happen? Ive never had a woman say to me 'Im not interested/Its over. Go away.' Its always phrased as an aloof excuse or flake at best. God it would be great if they were that direct.
Well, I had some being THAT direct even in front of me to their exes and they just wouldn't stop lol!
 

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i honestly think its nice guy syndrome and self-esteem. your self-esteem is horrible so you think you must have done something wrong so you endlessly chase the first piece of tail to come your way and get stuck on her.

its sad and men really shouldnt fall for it but we do. everyone on this site has done it Im sure.
 

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There are too many AFCs to count and I think we've all been in this position before.

It's a learning experience.

And some AFCs are still learning time and time again. It's like a vicious cycle.

Just be happy that you're on the outside looking in. A lot of them just can't understand it. And those who do understand it can't man up and change their ways--even more pathetic.

This doesn't really affect us at all. If anything it makes our lives easier with women. They know who to go to when they need a real man and they know who to go to when they need a tampon.

Be happy you can see all this.
 

DonJuanit0

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fuzzball said:
i honestly think its nice guy syndrome and self-esteem. your self-esteem is horrible so you think you must have done something wrong so you endlessly chase the first piece of tail to come your way and get stuck on her.

its sad and men really shouldnt fall for it but we do. everyone on this site has done it Im sure.
yeap yeap
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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