"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Let's take a poll on this.

DJinTraining06

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If u meet a girl and u think u should call the girl the next day - reply "next day"

If u think u should wait a couple days or more, reply "wait"

Seems like i got 50/50 responses when i asked bout my train experience. Some guys say do wat u want if u wanna call u should call. Other say never call the next day, wait at least 3 days or whatver. I wanna see what the general consensus is here.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I guess it depends on what kind of connection you have with the girl. If its a random girl whose number you got, wait around 3 days. But, if I have sex with the girl, I usually call the next day. If you wait 3 days, they will get the idea that it was just a one night stand.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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DJDamage said:
The more she likes you the less you have to worry about something like this.
This is true. Hard and steadfast rules are limiting. Acting on the amount of interest coupled with the actual encounter should be the deciding factor of any next steps.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJinTraining06

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DJDamage said:
The more she likes you the less you have to worry about something like this.
Thank you! I hate when i see people giving adivce here sayin ohhh u did the wrong thing u dont call her the next day bla bla bla. With the girls ive dated in my life, they never seemed to care. If they like u they dont care bout that sh*t. If they like and they do care bout that - aren't they not worth it? Unless ur just talkin bout sex, which im sure many on here would like. But me im more into LTr's. Not to say i wouldnt go for a one night stand, but i dont look for that.
 

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the higher the interest level, the longer you can wait. I aim for 2 days myself. Sometimes, I'll send a text on the day i get the number or the following day. 3 days or more has been played out in my opinion. Only time it might be useful is if she was REALLY into you and you wanted to keep her guessing.
 

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The idea of waiting so long to pull the trigger on making a phone call really has nothing to do with women at all. It has everything to do with where you are with them. If you're deperate and needy, it's best to wait. If you're batting them off with a stick, then you can call her within an hour and it wouldn't matter. Each and every guy has to determine this for himself, and most of us can figure it out in under 30 seconds.
 

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vorbis said:
the higher the interest level, the longer you can wait.
Wrong.

The question you need to ask yourself is this: If this girl has such a high interest in me then why wait? or looking on it from another point: Why call right away? The answer is that there is no difference between the two points. If you have a tight game and know how to create strong interest, know how to gauage high interest and recognised high interest then it doesn't really matter if you call her the next day or 5 days down the road. Its when she fits into your busy schedule with the other girls you are seeing, is when you know you are doing it right. Do you really think that a simple thing of a calling a few days apart will really change the perception she already has of you?? One small thing such as a phone call is not the problem but your overall game could be it.

Here is an extreme example but suits my point: If Brat Pitt would take down a girls number and then call her 3 years down the road for a date do you really think she will reject him? No! due to extreme level of high interest and her Hollywood fantasy, she is most likely to still accept a date with him. Although Hollywood stars live in a different world, you get the picture.
 

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what

this has never really been a problem for me

ive always just told the girl i'll call her when i get a chance and if it's that night, everythings okay..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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whenever you feel like it dude seriously... i think people overthink this a lot. call whenever the time is best for you.
 

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I've done 2 1/2 months before.
 

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Soprano said:
whenever you feel like it dude seriously... i think people overthink this a lot. call whenever the time is best for you.
this man is right. call when feel like it bro, or when u ave time. they really dont think ur needyif u call them the same day or watever, that's jus a lame unproven theory
 

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Say 'I'll call you soon' and then you can take 1-3 days. You don't owe them an excuse. Obviously like the others, interest plays a part. Can't look too eager but you also can't let it get away.
Call them up 1-3 days later, 5 min conversation and ask them out on a date for 3-5 days later (call em Tues, ask for a date for Saturday.) Keeps you in their heads if they say yes and you can do whatever until then. If they say no, hang up, wait another 1-3 days and try again. Three strikes and you are out.
 
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