let's just be friends?!?

[hiltxan]

so i've been seeing this girl for a couple weeks and last night at her place, we were making out until the point where both of us were half-naked. but she got a call and had to leave because she had something already planned beforehand.

10 minutes later, i received a text from her saying "can we just be friends?" at first i was kinda pissed that she would text me after we both knew we were interested in each other. why wouldnt she tell me in person or at least call me.

what should i tell her? on one hand, i like her and on the other, i dont want to be with another person who just wants to be friends, even though that wasn't the case when i was at her place. oh, and neither of us were drunk.

 

[AGBourne]

Tell her,

"Great. I feel the same way."

Thats it and leave it at that. She won't expect that.

 

[hiltxan]

that's what i'll probably end up doing, is just to be friends. i'm not going to wait and play games, seeing if she's willing to keep on going out with me. cause she clearly didn't say stop or give hints to stop me while we were both on her bed.

either she's playing hard to get or just plain scared. i think she's still interested.

 

[Jitterbug]

Why the fvck do you want a phony friendship? Tell her "no thanks, I have enough friends".

Btw that something she has planned beforehand would likely be a date with another guy, whom she's more keen on, hence the swift change in her behaviour.

 

[Armored]

Tell her "no thanks, I have enough friends".

This.

Make sure she understands her behavior is nonsense.

 

[AGBourne]

Why the fvck do you want a phony friendship? Tell her "no thanks, I have enough friends".

I like this reply as well. nice.

 

[hiltxan]

we didnt even bring up the topic when we talked. it's as if nothing happened. should we just leave it at that?

and now she wants to go drinking with me. it'll probably end up with her drunk and having an excuse to stay over and who knows from there. should i agree? i shouldn't get emotionally attached to this girl though

 

[Kal0051]

sure go out with her and if you get the chance then fvck the sh1t out of her. If you don't want to get emotionally attached then don't.

 

[Armored]

Let her inhibitions lower, rubber up and hit it. Then delete her number and never, ever pick up her phone calls.

If you insist on tolerating her disrespect that is.

 

[DJDamage]

at first i was kinda pissed that she would text me after we both knew we were interested in each other. why wouldnt she tell me in person or at least call me. .

Because she is a coward.

Fyi, Cowards cannot be trusted, and do not make good friends.

Her text message was a blatant avoidance strategy and the classic "lets just be friends" is the typical rejection line which isn't genuine in itself.

what should i tell her?

Nothing.

What should you do is the better question.

Getting busy with other girls is a good start.

That's why we advocate the "plate spinning" method because sh1t like that can happen.

 

[MisterMcGee]

I guarantee shes gonna be wondering "why hasnt he been talking to me?", it's rather funny. A girl kinda LJBFd me and I just smiled and moved on from it. I've been the same around her (I never used to approach her or initiate talks with her cause I was never interested in being friends), yet apparently she feels I'm ignoring her. Hilarious

 

[hiltxan]

the thing is i can't really avoid her cause she's in my classes and study groups. today we talked and it seems like everything was the way before but it clearly isnt.

i cant just start ignoring her completely. besides, she has way too many ways of contacting me. email, IM, phone etc. if this ends up to be some sort of fling, do i have to make the move or let her?

 

[Warrior74]

the thing is i can't really avoid her cause she's in my classes and study groups. today we talked and it seems like everything was the way before but it clearly isnt.

i cant just start ignoring her completely. besides, she has way too many ways of contacting me. email, IM, phone etc. if this ends up to be some sort of fling, do i have to make the move or let her?

You can't? Why not? Is she God? or your mom? Or your boss? Your a grown man, you can do what ever the hell you want to do. Just say hi and bye, keep it short and move on if your moving on. If your still holding out hope to hit it, go for it strong and then keep contact short afterwards.

Obviousy she's keeping her options open with you, you should be doing the same with her. She probably doesn't want to have sex with you because you are so present in her life, what if it goes wrong? What if you fall in love and the sex is bad and she has to see you every day? You need to get inside her head. You need to to back up off her and give her some space. Hang out and then give her space. Speak to her briefly and give her space...don't be up her ass.

 

[hiltxan]

do you think there's any chance of becoming friends with benefits?

i still enjoy her company and talking to her, but then again i'm not sure i want to be with her in a relationship.

how/what are the steps to becoming friends with benefits?

 

[r0cky]

do you think there's any chance of becoming friends with benefits?

i still enjoy her company and talking to her, but then again i'm not sure i want to be with her in a relationship.

how/what are the steps to becoming friends with benefits?

LMAO. Read the Dj bible d1ckhead.

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