When I was young I was always fascinated by change. I guess you can still say that I am now. One thing that fascinated me was how people’s positions in life could change dramatically as time passes by. Take for instance, my oneitis I had in elementary school (think first crush or something). She was the most popular girl, all the boys liked her. There was this gap of time that I didn’t see her, and by middle school, she was just an average kid looks-wise and popularity-wise. I was shocked. Her looks somehow left her, all in a span of a couple years! Being a young kid, I was fascinated by this. For some reason, I thought she would have good looks forever.
This wasn’t the end though, I began to notice a pattern everywhere later in my life. It is rare for a girl to look ‘hot’ throughout her whole life. If she is hot in college, chances are she looked average or even ugly when she was younger. If only we could look into the future, haha. Another example, have you ever seen pictures of movie stars when they were young? I have seen many throughout my lifetime, and what I noticed were a lot of them looked average, or even nerdy when they were young, and I’m talking about both males and females now. Crazy isn’t it? At one point Brad Pitt was a nobody; but a couple years later, the exact opposite. I see it all the time now that I am in college. People that I knew who were popular and had it all in high school, well, a lot of them are just average now, working at some dead-end job. Funny how change sets in so quickly.
But this isn’t all about looks or popularity either. The up and down cycle appears in many other avenues of life. Have you ever noticed that many wealthy people were at one point dirt poor? Many of them had to go through a huge ‘struggle’ to end up where they are now. Much like the ‘struggle’ some of us go through. The opposite is common too. Have you ever noticed that a lot of people who were given wealth in the beginning end up losing it because they didn’t have the same sense of ‘value’ for money as the people who had to work hard for it.
It is hard to explain, but there is a natural ebb and flow of life, which is accompanied by change. After all, life and change are deeply related. It is like, as time passes, change must occur; you will either go up or down. A lot of the people on this forum don’t realize it yet, but you are in prime position to ride the wave up when it comes to women. That is because you have failed at some point (most likely many times). The anger that builds inside of you is there for a reason. It is there by design, to help you! Some people use it constructively and reap the benefits, while others do the opposite and fall into depression or negativity. Interestingly, here is a part of a post from this forum that I found which I feel is relevant to what I am talking about. (Can you guess who wrote it?)
Take another example. Michael Jordan. I know it’s cliché to use this example, but do you think getting cut from his high school basketball team had something to do with how successful he became? Could you say that the instance of failure in high school was actually a blessing in disguise?
So what is the point of this post? I wrote this post to illustrate the position that many of you are in (including me). I basically wanted to address two points, and they are:
1. Change is inevitable and occurs everywhere. If you observe closely and try to see a little of the big picture, there are patterns to some of these changes. One common pattern is the success-failure cycle.
2. You have to realize that you are in a great position to grow because you have failed. People who are successful and full of pride are not in a position to grow. They may have confidence but no humility. This is your advantage! You have awesome materials (this site) and are now aware that you must either keep going down, or strive to go up. Which one will you choose?
This wasn’t the end though, I began to notice a pattern everywhere later in my life. It is rare for a girl to look ‘hot’ throughout her whole life. If she is hot in college, chances are she looked average or even ugly when she was younger. If only we could look into the future, haha. Another example, have you ever seen pictures of movie stars when they were young? I have seen many throughout my lifetime, and what I noticed were a lot of them looked average, or even nerdy when they were young, and I’m talking about both males and females now. Crazy isn’t it? At one point Brad Pitt was a nobody; but a couple years later, the exact opposite. I see it all the time now that I am in college. People that I knew who were popular and had it all in high school, well, a lot of them are just average now, working at some dead-end job. Funny how change sets in so quickly.
But this isn’t all about looks or popularity either. The up and down cycle appears in many other avenues of life. Have you ever noticed that many wealthy people were at one point dirt poor? Many of them had to go through a huge ‘struggle’ to end up where they are now. Much like the ‘struggle’ some of us go through. The opposite is common too. Have you ever noticed that a lot of people who were given wealth in the beginning end up losing it because they didn’t have the same sense of ‘value’ for money as the people who had to work hard for it.
It is hard to explain, but there is a natural ebb and flow of life, which is accompanied by change. After all, life and change are deeply related. It is like, as time passes, change must occur; you will either go up or down. A lot of the people on this forum don’t realize it yet, but you are in prime position to ride the wave up when it comes to women. That is because you have failed at some point (most likely many times). The anger that builds inside of you is there for a reason. It is there by design, to help you! Some people use it constructively and reap the benefits, while others do the opposite and fall into depression or negativity. Interestingly, here is a part of a post from this forum that I found which I feel is relevant to what I am talking about. (Can you guess who wrote it?)
It is almost like success breeds failure and failure breeds success. Amazing.
Take another example. Michael Jordan. I know it’s cliché to use this example, but do you think getting cut from his high school basketball team had something to do with how successful he became? Could you say that the instance of failure in high school was actually a blessing in disguise?
So what is the point of this post? I wrote this post to illustrate the position that many of you are in (including me). I basically wanted to address two points, and they are:
1. Change is inevitable and occurs everywhere. If you observe closely and try to see a little of the big picture, there are patterns to some of these changes. One common pattern is the success-failure cycle.
2. You have to realize that you are in a great position to grow because you have failed. People who are successful and full of pride are not in a position to grow. They may have confidence but no humility. This is your advantage! You have awesome materials (this site) and are now aware that you must either keep going down, or strive to go up. Which one will you choose?
Some of you may see what I wrote in this entire post as common sense, but I am amazed at how the attitude of “I am only capable of failure” or some other depressing statement is littered on this forum. Let’s change this. There is no reason to be negative.