"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Let the line go slack, what you recommend?

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what up all DJ's. i wanted to get a little input about this situation.

First off, I have a rotation of a few girls, so this aint oneitis. But this one I went on a coupla dates with, 2 to be exact, i felt that it should have evolved a little more. we had some drinks one night, went real well, kino, etc. but we both work early so ended night early.

Second date, dinner, then out for coctails at a bar/club. night ended with a simple kiss on the lips. next day we textmessage that we both had a nice time, etc. Up to this point, I had been doing all the work, calling arrangements etc. I felt it was time for her to make a move. after a few days, I hadn't heard word from her so I sent her a quick email about how it was her turn to take me out. trying to be a lil c/f.

unfortunetely, no response. honestly i have been busy with other ladies so I didn't folow up since and it has been a coupla weeks. This past weekend I ran into her and she was wasted and all flirty, etc but I think she is like this with all her guy friends as well.

so my question is should I bother calling or emailing her again or since I feel it to be onesided should I just let it go. We actually hung out like 3 times, where it was basically all my doing.

This girl is also busy all the time with 2 jobs, one during the week 8:30 -5 and another on Friday and Saturday nights so she barely has anytime regardless to hang out.

The more I write this I realize I should jsut let her go but there was something I felt between us that felt like it should have evolved a little more. what you all thinks?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You are a Man homey and thus you are entitled to the world (despite what those nasty feminist say). So if you want to pursue her pursue her. Dont over think it just do it. Women should be thinking about your every move not the other way around. Once you realize this the game called dating will be as eazy as it is.

"I am Man hear me Roar!!!"
 
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Some girls want to play the "take me out" role....they believe it's the MAN'S role to arrange the circumstances under which they meet.

You're a man. Men don't get taken out. They take out.

If she starts rejecting your ideas, that's another situation entirely, but as long as she's been agreeable to your plans, you should initiate the situations.

If you want her to treat you, come up with a way she can. Tell her to cook you a romantic dinner at your place or something. :D
 
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You set up the dates not her. Its just thew way it works.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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thanks guys. that does make sense. I guess one thing that has thrown me for a loop is that usually by the 3rd time hanging with a girl, we're getting down. The 3 times I did kick it with her sometimes she seemed totally down then other moments like I was already in the dreaded friend zone.

Something tells me that this girl isn't worth the effort honestly and it has seemed like an effort to hang with her. I already have another steady lay and a few other in the pipe.

My friend likes to use the concept of having a girl machine. A different girl for each aspect that we want to enjoy. one to take on dates, one to get dirty with, one to pal around with, one to introduce you to other ladies. I kind of like rolling this way as well.
 
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Originally posted by dirtycm

My friend likes to use the concept of having a girl machine. A different girl for each aspect that we want to enjoy. one to take on dates, one to get dirty with, one to pal around with, one to introduce you to other ladies. I kind of like rolling this way as well.
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Now you are playing with fire. That is the way of a Man, women were put here for US. Once you really grasp this you wont be worrying about your every move, you will just do whatever the hell you want. There are here to make your life better, so worry about what you want instead of worrying about what they want all the time. Their opinions is not greater then yours. Do what you feel like doing, if she's down she's down if not-NEXT!
 
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