"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Let the girl miss you- how to do it ?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=19088zorg198 said:not yet , i don't know how to do it .
Help
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16126
There ya go
JPlaya said:
Thanks,
Can you read my earlier post and tell me what do you think?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well this dude she's going to coffee breaks , he's a totaly AFC.
Last week i saw him coming all the time to her desk , asking how is she and some cr@p.
In the times i cared and was sitting with her and listening what she had to say , she mentioned she's going to a vacation in the weekend with her girl friends.( i started ignore her two weeks ago) - Last week i came to the office , it was wedensday. Said good afternoon , she immidiatly came and said . Hi! how are you? what's new? tmorrow i am going to Vacation , just like that out of the blue
I didnt remeber what the hell she talked about so i asked , vacation? she said yes , i told you about it remeber? i said ok, have fun.
Today , Sunday she came back, i saw her - said my good morning and left
, Its amazing how girls will come up with stuff just to draw your attention. after she understood i dont care how the vacation was , she told me she has a limp- i told her - Ok, tried to avoid it As you guys suggested, i am keeping ignoring her because i moved on and i dont care anymore , it really fells good to have this upper hand.:woo:
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You have her on a pedestal, you also think you're much smoother than you actually are. You seem to act like you're alpha which is why you're incapable of taking people's advice but you're not actually being alpha. You kept asking if it would be fine to text her when you'd see her in 2 days and everybody kept saying to go NC but you'd keep asking hoping somebody would say "text her" so you could what you wanted, and probably did do, anyways and feel like it was the right move.
I'd say you're friend zoned. Getting asked by a girl to go get water with her doesn't sound too romantic or intimate. Based on the whole story I'd say you were never even out of the friend zone, I don't think she was ever attracted to you.
It's hard enough to get out of the friend zone if a girl once found you attractive, but when you never had a shot from the start it's going to be impossible, unless you suddenly become 6' 2", muscular, rich, and stop acting like a high schooler.
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You have no power you're just saying good morning, I doubt she even cares.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.