Let my relationship go too far. Stayed for selfish reasons, how to get out?

[smithersonb11]

Hey guys,

So around summer last year, I started to have oneitis for a girl I had friendzoned. Decided to try things out. Regular sex and a regular relationship was nice for a while. She got hit on a lot, being pretty cute, I got jealous but not nearly as jealous as she did. Now It's almost like I'm staying with her not because I want to be with her, but because I don't want someone else to have her.

Almost a year later, and it's a pretty serious relationship. I'm moving far away to school in september, she wants to come, actually, she thinks she is. She's pretty much my ideal girlfriend in almost every way, but I'm young, there's no ****ing way im settling down for "the one" this early in life. It will absolutely destroy her if I break up with her, won't be easy for me either. I've been looking for a way out or hoping she'd do something to give me a way out but it just hasn't happened.

I feel like **** for letting it go this far.

 

[apocolipto]

Why not let her go with you? Then you could enjoy time together.

It's really not to say your going to get engaged just 'cause she's going with you.

 

[LearningSlowly]

Don't let her go with you. You need a mature girl who sees things realistically and doesn't want to leech.

Be honest and firm.

 

[Vidrio]

Just tell her straight up. She'll probably start crying and trying to get you to change your mind, but don't change it.

 

[smithersonb11]

Why not let her go with you? Then you could enjoy time together.

It's really not to say your going to get engaged just 'cause she's going with you.

Thought about it, not sure I want to potentially mess up or delay her future just so I can put off breaking up with her for a few more months or however long.

Don't let her go with you. You need a mature girl who sees things realistically and doesn't want to leech.

Be honest and firm.

You're definitely right, easier said than done though...