Let it all out... Should I?

[Tigger]

This girl I know, comes up to me and tell's me how she feels. She told me how much she really likes me. She had a crush on me for five months. After she let everything out, now she is very quiet and kinda to quiet. The wierd thing is when her and I are alone, she opens herself and tell's me her deepest secret and how mush she likes me.

I like this girl and for some reason I feel that she made a mistake by tellling me how she feels. But the other hand, she love to kiss me, smile and hug me.

She tell's me different things. Ex..

1. Why you tell me how bueatiful I am?

2. When I see you, I don't know if you want me to kiss you or not?

3. Why do you like me?

4. Why are you so good to me?


When everytime I'm good to her, she ask me these questions.


I feel that I should be honest and be myself (Old fashion way) Tell hell like it is... Open the door.. Pay for dinner... Don't rush sex... etc.

She only calls me when I call her. If I want to kiss her, I have to lean over. Get the idea. What should I do? I know she is crazy about me, but the same time I feel she doesn't..

What should I do?

Steve

 

[Evangenlion]

don't worry about, girls are like that.
she is very insecure.

she opened up to u, but is expecting the same in return.

She tell's me different things. Ex..

1. Why you tell me how bueatiful I am?
tell her "because to me u are bueatiful and i can never explain it cus its just the way i feel towards u"

2. When I see you, I don't know if you want me to kiss you or not?
thats another sign of her insecure mind,
tell her " when we meet always kiss me"
you must be dominate in this relationship

3. Why do you like me?
"why not, i like u, now hush about it"

4. Why are you so good to me?
"cus i'm good to poeple i care for deeply"

she asks very insecure questions, u just need to handle the questions just like that and keep control of her.


i'd give more advice but, its lunch time laters

 

[joekerr31]

she's just insecure. she's told you she likes, had a crush on you, etc.

she's just afraid that you will reject her eventually.

best way to handle this is to sit her down and tell her "Look, i understand that you are insecure. I'll say this once and only once. I like you, so stop worrying that I don't. If you are feeling insecure and want a hug or something, just ask for one. Asking me over and over why i like you makes me think you are constantly judging yourself and me as well, which isn't healthy."

If she can't curb her insecurities after you've poitned them out and reassured her that you like her, then she's too immature for a healthy relationship.

J

 

[Evangenlion]

Errrr....don't tell her she is insecure. there is very good chance she'll deny it.

best to just know she is insecure and make her feel secure.

 

[joekerr31]

if you like her being insecure then ya, don't tell her. if you want her to be secure then tell her to grow up. otherwise she will always be a basket case no matter how much you show her she has nothing to worry about.

the more you try to make her feel secure the more she will need you to feel secure, and hence the more she will worry about losing you.

it's a vicious circle with some of these women.

if you want her to act like a secure adult then treat her like one - which means telling it to her like it is.

J

 

[Tigger]

Thank you for your advise. I can see what your talking about!