Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Let her know she's just a plate?

PackDaddy

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Hey guys, I'm going out with this girl on a second date tomorrow. As far as I know, she's interested. However, I'm also interested. She's hot, and a lot of fun. But, we're in the beginning stages, so I'm talking to other girls as well. At the end of the day, she has me intrigued and I would like to continue to see her; intrigued.

Now here's the deal:
She texted me a lot the first week she met me. She texted every day and was quick to respond. Then we went out. Had a good date. Failed a few minor ah1t tests (wasn't myself that day), but at the end of the day hooked up in my car. She was also the one who approached me and told me I was cute and she was going to go get us shots at a party. Anyways, after the first date, she continues to check in with me, but like once a day and not quick to respond. The day after the date I sent out a snapchat of the house I will be at on 4th of july. An hour goes by and I ask her what she's doing then. Long story short, she agrees to come with me but won't stay all night because she also wants to see her friends (bet I can make her stay). However, I went through a 1 day NC with her because I thought something was wrong. In that day I invited another HB to the 4th if July to replace her.

The question is:
Do I let her know she is not the only plate? Do I let her know she has competition. I'm thinking this could raise her interest more, as she is interested, but I want her to be like that 1st week again where she was nonstop texting me. So when July 4th comes up tomorrow, I'm thinking I let it slip that I invited another girl. What do you guys think?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don't play games. If you want to see other girls, see other girls. If she asks you if you're seeing other girls, you can tell her that you are.

But don't try to make her jealous in an attempt to raise her interest. I can forsee a huge backfire there, followed by another post on SoSuave asking how it could've all gone so wrong :)

Good luck, and remember - you spin other plates for yourself, for your own confidence. Not to fu-k with a girl's head.
 

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TheCWord

Yo you are so right. Thanks for those words of wisdom! I didn't originally spin to F##k with her, but thought after maybe I could use them on her. But, you are totally right! Obviously I'm not interested enough, or far enough, to not want to spin plates. So if she asks I'll tell her I'm seeing other girls too; the truth. Turns out I'm in the ****pit afterall.
 

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PackDaddy said:
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The question is:
Do I let her know she is not the only plate? Do I let her know she has competition.
No, not verbally. That's what your lighthearted, aloof and sexual demeanour implies to her anyway. You can round about insinuate your busy with other chicks (without actually saying it) through well crafted text messages later. Like a bread crumb trail, she will pick it up.

but at the end of the day hooked up in my car.
What does this mean? I don't know that jargon. Have you actually fvcked this bird?
 

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Hooking up means...

In this case her shoving her tongue into my mouth, us groping each other, her rubbing my crotch and me rubbing her slit (with clothes on), in my car.

At one point she took my hand off her slit. This was one of the sh1t tests I failed. Normal self would have laughed at her and continued. Regardless though, she told me she had a great time when she got out of the car.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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During the date tomorrow I'm going to build kino. Plus she's gonna have a drink with me. She doesn't know it yet (maybe she does), but she's gonna fvck me tomorrow night.
 
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