Supremo
Senior Don Juan
Hey guys. Been a LOONNGG time since I've been on the forums. And this will be my last post. But I might as well offer some value before I go.
I'd like to start off by thanking everyone at SoSuave for being such a huge part in my growth, not just as someone who does pickup, but in my self-actualization process as well.
On the flip-side... my first advice for everyone is to learn how to filter out all the straight **** on here. Back in the day, when I was an avid poster, I'd talk about stuff I never actually experienced. I'd give advice on things which weren't even worked out in my life. I'd pretend like I was some big pimp when in the long run, it hurt me. You see, I was faking this PIMP persona and it didn't align to who I was inside. Living incongruently is the #1 way for your life to start not feeling right.
What I SHOULD'VE done, and what everyone on here should take heed and do, is:
LET GO.
I'll repeat that again.
LET GO.
Of what? Of your ego. Of your forum identity. Of your OWN identity. Guys, people ask questions like "what should I talk about with a girl?" and "how do I pull this chick?"
Irrelevant.
What you NEED to be working on is your inner game. Finding out who you REALLY are inside and learning to accept it. Becoming totally centered with yourself. Not giving a **** what anyone thinks.
Let me dive into this concept of not caring what anyone thinks. It's a widely talked about issue. Sort of like being an "alpha male." In reality, you need to ACTUALLY not care about what anyone says... not just fake it. People say "fake it til you make it," but that's only to get a taste of what whatever "it" is. In order to see the results you want, in order to actually BECOME what you want, you have to go outside your comfort zone and undergo a deep identity-level change.
What the hell is that? That's getting out of your chodely ways (AFC, for all you who haven't learned the ways of RSD) and acting through your OWN intentions. An alpha male acts as he does, because thats his REALITY.
Anyone.
ANYONE
can become an alpha male. All it takes is just letting go and finding out who you are. The simplest and most definite definition of an "alpha" person is: someone who takes what they want.
You see food. You eat it. You want to sing out loud at the top of your lungs. You freak the **** out of people with your screaming. You see a hot girl. You talk to her and ooze sexual dominance.
People WAY overanalyze game. It all comes down to having the mind right. All the outter game stuff is fine, but its only the icing on the cake. If your inner game is crap, then all you have is **** covered in colorful sugar. People will see something appealing, but once they look deeper they'll see the incongruence and run away (see: the face girls make when you say something that totally offends them... like the smell of ****... or the thizz face
)
So I'll leave you with this. Unless you are centered in yourself. Unless you know who YOU are. You will NEVER get the results you want in pickup.
Don't you get it? Getting girls shouldn't BE our lives, it should be a PART of it.
Getting your inner game dialed affects school, interactions with family, interactions with guys, interactions with girls, work, sports... EVERY aspect of your life.
So guys. Don't come on here looking for the magic pill to make you feel better. Don't think that getting girls will solve all your life's problems.
Self-actualization and self-discovery are key.
On that, I bid you farewell, and good luck on your road to happiness.
I'd like to start off by thanking everyone at SoSuave for being such a huge part in my growth, not just as someone who does pickup, but in my self-actualization process as well.
On the flip-side... my first advice for everyone is to learn how to filter out all the straight **** on here. Back in the day, when I was an avid poster, I'd talk about stuff I never actually experienced. I'd give advice on things which weren't even worked out in my life. I'd pretend like I was some big pimp when in the long run, it hurt me. You see, I was faking this PIMP persona and it didn't align to who I was inside. Living incongruently is the #1 way for your life to start not feeling right.
What I SHOULD'VE done, and what everyone on here should take heed and do, is:
LET GO.
I'll repeat that again.
LET GO.
Of what? Of your ego. Of your forum identity. Of your OWN identity. Guys, people ask questions like "what should I talk about with a girl?" and "how do I pull this chick?"
Irrelevant.
What you NEED to be working on is your inner game. Finding out who you REALLY are inside and learning to accept it. Becoming totally centered with yourself. Not giving a **** what anyone thinks.
Let me dive into this concept of not caring what anyone thinks. It's a widely talked about issue. Sort of like being an "alpha male." In reality, you need to ACTUALLY not care about what anyone says... not just fake it. People say "fake it til you make it," but that's only to get a taste of what whatever "it" is. In order to see the results you want, in order to actually BECOME what you want, you have to go outside your comfort zone and undergo a deep identity-level change.
What the hell is that? That's getting out of your chodely ways (AFC, for all you who haven't learned the ways of RSD) and acting through your OWN intentions. An alpha male acts as he does, because thats his REALITY.
Anyone.
ANYONE
can become an alpha male. All it takes is just letting go and finding out who you are. The simplest and most definite definition of an "alpha" person is: someone who takes what they want.
You see food. You eat it. You want to sing out loud at the top of your lungs. You freak the **** out of people with your screaming. You see a hot girl. You talk to her and ooze sexual dominance.
People WAY overanalyze game. It all comes down to having the mind right. All the outter game stuff is fine, but its only the icing on the cake. If your inner game is crap, then all you have is **** covered in colorful sugar. People will see something appealing, but once they look deeper they'll see the incongruence and run away (see: the face girls make when you say something that totally offends them... like the smell of ****... or the thizz face
)So I'll leave you with this. Unless you are centered in yourself. Unless you know who YOU are. You will NEVER get the results you want in pickup.
Don't you get it? Getting girls shouldn't BE our lives, it should be a PART of it.
Getting your inner game dialed affects school, interactions with family, interactions with guys, interactions with girls, work, sports... EVERY aspect of your life.
So guys. Don't come on here looking for the magic pill to make you feel better. Don't think that getting girls will solve all your life's problems.
Self-actualization and self-discovery are key.
On that, I bid you farewell, and good luck on your road to happiness.