Your reasoning falls apart from the title to the body because it contradicts itself. If sex is already “normal,” happens every day, and is nothing special, then there’s nothing to normalize and yet, your entire post is trying to push this as a social standard.
There are more contradictions in your argument. You claim sex isn’t the goal, yet you repeatedly use it as a key indicator of value: “high-value men get laid,” and those who don’t are framed as low value. There is also a contradiction between effortless success and effort-based success, where you say attraction should come naturally to “high-value” men, while also praising outcomes that typically require social skill, experience, and effort. There are more, but I don’t have time to go through all of them.
Look, the pushback you’re getting isn’t due to misunderstanding but because your argument is built on contradictions, generalizations, and absolutes. I think it’s best to scope your argument more carefully.