Call_Me_Daddy
Master Don Juan
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Because she told me she was a virgin, told me she didn't have room for relationships while banging aother guy and putting this issue under the rug when I did see her subsequently on two occasions knowing I'd finish with her if I knew about it. Therefore, after she got used and dumped, she came to me, or I'm some sort of spare tire for her, and I just got turned-off. She's likely pregnant now as she says she's going through something, and I don't want to find out.skip2mylou781 said:DUDE.......u say a girl cheated on you when she was with another guy???
how is it cheating? if you and hever never kissed or cuddled for months, please tell me WHY IS IT CHEATING IN YOUR MIND?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
because of the friction of the same material, same reason why u cant use a male condom and a female condom at the same timeskip2mylou781 said:totally outta left field, but IF u do get laid, dont u DARE use double protection
well known fact that 1 condom wont rip, but 2 at the same time are much more likely to rip. I forget why, but its a known fact
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That's exactly what the rules are about - having a cool, relaxed, easy attitude behind the screen means writing no more than three sentences and staying AWAY from the internet as much as possible since the internet kills your chances, using cell phone over email, and meeting someone in person.Black Circle said:And to luke, man, no offense, constructive critisism right here, u come across as a dork. work on having a cool, relaxed, easy going attitude first.
Right, but it has to be 'congruent'. I cant act like I like hard rock music to impress a girl if I know I only like classical music. I'd have to go with a classical music chick even if I may physically like a girl into rock, right? I dont see myself with ears pierced, side burns, etc.... Furthermore, when I did a player's makeover, it was suggested to leave hair low, and be totally clean shaven - and that appearance makes me look yonger.Black Circle said:Do something about your hair man, your losing it, it lessens your apperance a lot. Get your ear pierced with a nice stud, grow an thin beard from the side burns and around. Little things that I think would bring your apperance up.
If you have anything specific to say about the myspace page, in terms of pics and profile and improving them, I'm all ears, otherwise, you are not helping. It seems everyone has something to say, but fail to make constructive advice where it counts the most - creating an ideal online profile and set-up.Call_Me_Daddy said:You really need to fix that.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.